How to win back a Virgo
December 4, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
Have you lost a Virgo? Do you want to win him back? Then all you have to do is be perfect. Obviously, he left you because you were somehow inefficient.
The first thing you need to do is take a fearless inventory of yourself, and identify all of your human flaws. Then eradicate them.
It could be that you did not improve in the face of his relentless criticism. Don’t get me wrong, I know you tried, but surely you missed a spot [on the dishes/his favorite shirt]. You might not have seen it, but he did. You see, that’s your problem — you just don’t see.
What? I’m sounding like the Virgo who dumped you? Stop being so sensitive! Here I am, telling you how to rid yourself of all your imperfections, and you complain! No wonder he left you!
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I am a Pisces female who left a virgo guy after being with him for 2 1/2 years. He never once showed me any kind of emotion until the very end. I was left giftless on all holidays and birthdays, never thanked for anything I tried. He wanted sex when HE wanted it, if I wanted to snuggle, well he was just uncomfortable, he needed to snuggle his body pillow. When I realized that I was looking out the window in the car for my real soul-mate everywhere we went, I decided to give it to him straight. I was no longer in love with him and and I was moving on. Then this man was up my butt 24-7. I could not leave for milk without coming home to flowers on the table. He had flowers delivered to my work, he cleaned my house, he cleaned my car, he called me on his way home asking did i need anything? he did all the things that I would have fallen harder for him for if he had done them when I wanted it. He was critical of me, instead of saying wow this is pretty good, he would say “next time, cut the onions up a little finer, maybe add some more salt”. hahahahaha this is just how they are. They mean nothing by it. There was a point in our relationship where I had two job offers, one made less but was what I wanted to do, the other paid more but was terrible hours and uncomfortable work. He criticized me until I cried over not making the smart, logical decision. I expected to hear that from my father, but him I wanted to hear “I’m so glad that you are going to be happy babe”.. but virgo would never say that! So, I know that if you are thinking that your virgo is going to leave you, or noticing a change in them/ think you have turned them off? What has worked for me (although i no longer was trying) was IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE.. I had him calling my friends asking if i had someone else, sending me flowers and texts, i could tell his nervous system was all messed up, he looked physically ill while asking me with his tail between his legs if we could please talk. You have to show these guys that they CAN be replaced and OMG someone might be able to do a job better than a virgo! It has been quite a while, he is single while I am looking around and starting to date. He is still stuck on “lets try” so girls, I wish I could love this reliable, hard working, gentle, loyal, smart, nitpicking, sarcastic, perfectionist but this pisces heart deserves a man who doesn’t let me down emotionally.
I’ve been reading… I am a virgo female and I just wanted to say: Flighty Virgo… I love you gal’…. your description is to a T… LOL!!!!
I’d been let down emotionally by my Virgo guy about five years ago. I took a break from the relationship because of it, but was honest about how he made me feel…
He’d never grown in an emotionally connected family unit, I later discovered, and had no idea about all that hurts and where to start in understanding me. Add to that his former, horribly obnoxious “BFF” who was about the biggest, most self-centered pig on Earth, and guess what? ALL he knew about life was that he had to be there for himself.
We got back together after nearly two months, both having learned something valuable about the other, helping each other to work through our stumbling blocks. And believe me when I say that we’d overcome many.
My Virgo boyfriend became my husband last year
. We “grew up” and he turned out to be there for me more than any other guy I’d ever met or dated or befriended. Ever. I confidently accepted a proposal for marriage, realizing that being with someone like him, who is willing to work for a relationship, is worth every ounce of me. Not to mention that it is so, so hard to find someone to love me like he does just anywhere.
If you’ve got a good one, hang on!