haha well that’s great (no sarcasm intend! lol), but why don’t you fill us in on your basic aspects from your chart and his… then tell us about the both of you and how you interact… by doing so I can offer you some advice on how to handle.

I’ll give you an example… If has an air type moon (gemini/libra/aquarius), then he’ll be more detached very early on and won’t demand you of every second of everyday… it won’t get that way till about 6 months to a year into the relationship that he wants you more often… also air moon pisces types will want to be mentally stimulated more often and try to make a friendship connection as well as a love connection, then say a water moon pisces, who will want an emotional connection with you, but also know you mentally and take things slow. They like the old fashion way of romance and for sex as well.

And to all the other ladies reading this, the rest is for you…

The more slow a process that a Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio male goes with you, the more he is invested in you emotionally and mentally. I’m currently started getting to know a cancer with a cancer moon (ahhh! double crab! lol) but his moon and my moon are on the same page, we also have the same element for mercury (this plays into easy communication then), and even though out venus-mars is different (he has both Leo for venus/mars & i’ve got pisces venus/gemini mars), we still seem to enjoy this…

I can say that from my overall experience with Pisces males, that the more water in his chart, the more moody he will be with you, he won’t tell you what’s wrong, cause he expects you to read his mind or at least subconsciously “know” what’s going on with him… if you are both very intuitive, think outside the box, are quarky/unique, don’t mind being creative for romance, and are not materialistic (i.e. – money is more important than love to you) you may end up reeling in a water sign male easily…

AquaTrainer,

Good to hear, keep at it… Pisces have a thing for a woman that has a life of her own, who can stay focused and have fun with her family/friends. They like knowing you don’t need them 24/7… kind of makes them, how do you say “chase you” more often haha. Also don’t play the game for too long, cause if he senses that you are playing head games, he’ll just leave you alone for good, but if you make it painfully aware without saying anything that you “need” him or “miss” him, that’ll make him leave you alone too. They like a good balance of desire and space from a woman. It’s had to pull it off unless you are a pro at this.

I think if you want to start connecting with him more and feel it’s not over JUST YET, then try some meditation that can help you get in touch with your intuition a little more. That may get you on a more subconscious level with him. And trust me told a Pisces will trust his intuition over rational reasoning any day of the week, which is why it makes no sense half the time the way these guys react, say what they say, and show you how they feel. It’s ironically one of the few things I have in common with those guys on a huge deep level, because i’m almost the same.

But the smart Pisces also use what they have gathered over the years from experience and mix that with intuition, that’s how you get a smart Pisces with common sense. Those are the hard ones to find, usually those are the ones that screwed over the most by women, learn from those mistakes, and end up being very detached.

Yet when the right woman comes into their lives, they are all over here like peanut butter on bread, because she is the jelly in his sandwich of life.

My favorite famous Pisces male (Gemini Moon) is Freddie Prinze Jr. who married Sarah Michelle Gellar (Aries w/ a Pisces moon). Now they were friends for about 3 years before they got involved, which helped them to know one another, hangout platonically, and gain trust in one another. Sarah is very smart, graduated 2 years ahead of schedule from high school, got straight “A’s”, did three different sports, and was acting, all done at 16 years of age. She was unique, intelligent, funny, and didn’t mind sharing her opinions (this got her labeled a b***h in hollywood). Then you have Freddie, who is handsome, quiet, quirky, charming, and witty. They basically compliment each other because her moon is emotionally on the same page as his sun and vice versa when it comes to his moon and her sun. When you look at other aspects, she has a lot of water and he has a lot more air, so basically they have the urge to talk, hangout, and connect mentally and emotionally on the same level. They have been married since 2002 and recently in august/september gave birth to a little baby girl (who is a Virgo baby, perfect addition!)

My point in using them is to show you an example of two people who have complimentary plants and aspects that work together, even if they don’t have the same element for sun signs, but fi they have everything else that is, then it can work out easily.

I think you should go to the website that I love and seems to always be good with this, but try: http://www.moonit.com . There you can get a better insight to how you guys mesh not only with astrology, but chinese astrology, numerology, and more that they use to compare all aspects as either friends, lovers, or on a working level.

After reading EVERYTHING (line for line, word for word lol), I’ve come to a conclusion as to why he is acting the way he is: you like to be in control, are blunt, and crave his admiration of how he loves you all the time. Because of this (you have a leo rising, I have a friend who has the same, she feels like this too) it can cause you too panic when he he doesn’t respond emotionally back to you romantically in some way.

I can say that you did act out a little too much (leo is famous for making you feel the urge to go over top with emotions) and that caused him to react the way he did. The fact that you have no cleared up the air (no pun intended lol), that he has a cancer moon and you have a virgo, yet your chart is made up air mostly and his of water… which means he craves emotional connection with someone and you crave mental stimulation more. Because of this he doesn’t need to tell you everyday how he loves you or feels, he just needs to know you are there, you trust him, and that you express the love physically. You on the other hand with all the air crave conversation, laughter, compliments, and verbal dedication everyday. And thats one BIG reason why you two are not on the same page….

Also aside from astrology, having to go through someone’s phone to check up on someone, should of been an indicator to you that maybe you don’t trust him period. If you trust someone, there is no need to snoop and try and convincer yourself that he is cheating…

Anyway back to the original topic, the fact that you accused him of something, any Pisces that has this happen, will attack back and worse. They have no problem then stripping you down to the real you in the situation that they truly see you as, which can be very hurtful and make you feel like you are naked on stage in front of hundreds of people.

Here is another thing, I have a friend, who when she didn’t want her boyfriend to get mad about what guys she was talking to, she changed their names to be female names and lie about it….

And here is a big thing you must be aware of if you want to keep a Pisces male happy: they don’t like on a schedule… and they don’t like being forced to have one. So if you hate being late or waking up at the same time everyday or HAVE to do the same thing every day, then you’ll bore him, which on top of that will make him think if he stays with you are you going to make him be just as rigid in his life too…. they don’t like being forced into a box for anything in life. You also ended up giving him everything he wanted… that’s the thing, Pisces will soak up and never say a word if they are getting everything handed to them…

I’ve noticed famous couples that did work out who had a Pisces male husband… Demi Moore (Scorpio w/ a Gemini Moon) was married to Bruce Willis (Pisces w/ and Aquarius Moon) for over 10 years… she was strong, confident, was happy with her physical image, didn’t push so hard to look good unless she was working on a movie, and knew how to ooze sexy without even trying. Everybody wanted to be her or have her when she was at her prime in hollywood. Pisces love a woman that is like that and more. They love women who even if they don’t love their body or anything like that, they don’t complain about it. They see that as strong and healthy actually. And they love women that won’t put up with their crap, but won’t be blunt about it either. They like women tact and honesty used together.

Yet here is the thing, even those two split up… yet Demi knew how to keep her cool and not worry too much. She knew how to move on and to Aston Kutcher (Aquarius w/ a Scorpio moon). Talk about your hot pair lol

Anyway… my point is, that you have TOO much air in your chart to go as deep as a Pisces with a lot of water in his chart likes to go. Yet being he has a Gemini rising, it’ll make him want to argue with you just for the heck of it cause he is bored. I have gemini in my chart and i purposely argue cause it’s funny sometimes to see what people might say and to have some mental fun for no reason, more fun when I’m debating with a Gemini (Taurus moon) friend haha.

So back on topic… he was trying to push you into talking the talk, but having you walk the walk in conversations. But I did noticed you just go straight up to him, no warning, but too in his face when trying to prove a point. Now being i have scorpio moon, you may want to try this cause there is some tact to it:

Next time you feel he could be cheating, don’t react let him keep doing what he is doing, make him think you are not bothered, get apathetic on him (in other words, don’t show emotion or go snooping on him). Then wait a few weeks, when he doesn’t expect it, have him sit down for food, then be passive-aggressive, don’t make eye contact and tell him exactly everything you know and stay calm about it. He’ll look as though you are handling this in a mature fashion, that what he does is making him be less of a man, and that you are not playing around this time. When you use grand gestures of emotions to convince him that you are hurt and more, he’ll think you are being out of line and acting like a child, cause don’t stay calm and are causing a scene when you do this, which is why he is being so mean to you in return, you act like a child, he will treat you like one is pretty much his attack style on you.

The reason water signs or people with a lot of water get along so well is because they handle things in a similar fashion: we all stay calm, we don’t loose our cool, and we approach when our intuition says it’s okay. We also know when to walk away and when to fight against the grain. We hold back everything unless we know for sure it’s worth it and we also have very sharp tongues when we are hurt, because we won’t play by the books if you do wound us.

Oh and Pisces male/females are known to be some of the most beautiful signs in the zodiac. My last ex looked like a model that walked off an abercrombie ad… it was the one thing that would always throw me off when i’d try to be serious in conversations cause he was so distraction in how devastatingly beautiful of a man he was…

oh and your guy, his manipulation isn’t Pisces, that’s a Gemini trait right there by the way… Pisces play victims, but they never manipulate anyone to that kind of level… not that I know of… but they won’t cause they have compassion for the entire human race, so they don’t go there…

He is doing a typical Pisces testing string along game… they say all the right things at the worst times… they have this weird fascination with if its not hell for romance, then it’s not right. They like having a roller coaster romance almost as much as scorpio sun/moon/rising people… which is one of the reasons astrologers put those two together as a good match… Pisces males who are not fully mature emotionally will do this to every girlfriend they have. They are moody, detached, romantic, and yet unstable. They are the ultimate unattainable guy in everyone women’s eyes, cause he is that handsome, broody, deep soul kind of guy those Pisces. But that’s the thing, only water based chart people will understand why this is and know why they won’t change or dare close him in, especially people with a lot of pisces in their chart. I love Pisces males just the way they are 9 times out of 10. I don’t think I would ever change one that I’ve met over my 22 years of living (soon to be 23 lol).

I mean some have driven me to the point of tears, while others have driven me to the point of being fits of laughter. But I wouldn’t change them, I’d let my experiences i have with them change them… that’s how one way it flows naturally with these guys… they like to flow with change, good or bad… they flow with it… anything forced and they back away from it, always. Even if they love someone, if they feel forced emotionally, they will back away.

And you’ve forced him, I’m sorry to say cause you’ve done everything that screams you don’t trust him, you are trying to force him to change his ways, and want him to be the guy you met on day one… you gotta let him be himself, love him even if he isn’t perfect (unconditionally is a pisces trait), and just flow with him…. don’t try and gain control over it anymore, just let it happen on it’s own… if things are meant to work out it will at this point… but if you feel it in you heart that it’s failed, then walk away gracefully, leave a note and say your goodbyes… trust me, you’ll be surprised at how much respect he might have that you taken this road with no emotional attachment when leaving…

Ok, for starters I was wrong with his moon. So that makes him Sun: Pisces Moon: Cancer (not Virgo) and Rising: Gemini. I am Sun: Aquarius Moon: Virgo (I’m the Virgo haha) and Rising: Leo. I’ve compiled our charts before and I’m mostly Air, he’s mostly Water. I don’t want to think he did cheat because I guess I can’t fathom someone being capable of such wicked things! But let me say this, when I’m happy he’s extremely happy and that’s how it’s been every day but one since his guy’s night. He does call me, he does text, I do know what his schedule is. I think the only way he could cheat is if it’s on his lunch break. When I went into the relationship with him EVERYONE who knew him (especially his aqua-pisces cusp brother) said he’s not the cheating type. He’s cheated once, that I know of, on an ex. They were together for 2 years and the were both 19 or 20 years old. He said he was using her for money and they had no connection, whatsoever. He said she was a tomboy and hung out with the guys and that’s not what he wanted nor does he want. The difference between her and I (I gather) is that I’m attractive and I’m there for him and I am a girly girl when his guy friends are around. Long story short, he wanted me because I was a “Smart business woman who cares about her health, is educated, is funny, and is confident”….then after the honeymoon was over I was suddenly “dominating. manly…full of false confidence”. Was I the driver in the seat of my past relationships? Yes. Did anyone ever complain? No. He also likes to turn everything I do or say as an “excuse..justification…LIE” to which I’m like what planet are you from?!?! I don’t lie! I don’t make excuses! People who know me know I’m a real blunt person…and I feel I’m respected, but kept at a distance (which is what I prefer actually). He’s a Pisces…so who doesn’t get their heart touched?! Our relationship came down hill in the beginning because our “disagreements” were termed “fights”. I can’t debate with him. He “knows everything”. Over the past two years, we’ve had issues on him keeping gal friends in his phone who were flirting with him that he never told me about. “Well, they never implied or said they wanted to hang out outside of work”….yeah, no. Read that one! I’ve sniffed his underwear in the past…accused him of cheating after I had a lot of evidence…his first approach was calm…his second approach had every vein in his body turning red! I was in the dog house for a week. This was about 8 or 9 months ago. Right after the guy’s night (a couple of weeks ago) he told me to seperate myself from him…that I’m insecure, screwed up, immature, and depressed all the time. I say “for every action, there’s an equal or opposite reaction”. I was depressed because my boyfriend emotionally and verbally abuses me! I appear immature because no one’s ever ever EVER treated me like this…I’m insecure because you never tell me the truth about anything! Why is it he tells me I can’t have guy friends because “guy’s are only friends with girls if they think they can get some tail from them”… ok then why did you have gal friends that were “just co-workers” you’d talk to? Hmm? A little hypocrital, don’t you think?! Facebook User, with every being in my body I’m afraid I’m in major denial of the fact he’s hooked up with anyone. He actually put a lock on his phone yesterday and didn’t say anything….and yesterday morning I found a guy’s name (he’s done this before) that I’ve never heard of and messed up the numbers…then I went into (omg I’m psycho haha) his brother’s phone and messed with the girl’s number HE had met that night. With the phone logs my boyfriend only called the guy’s name once 1 1/2 wks ago and his brother talked to that girl a total of 3 times since his guy’s night. That was 3 weeks ago….so…I really don’t know. But in his drunken rage he said “who would blame me if I cheated? My girlfriend is always depressed and I’m so miserable!” “I get hit on all day long but I don’t do anything because I’m not single, but maybe I should! I should be single so I can pull in ALL that tail!” Here I am begging for another chance (at the time I had a major test in two days, so). But, later was the conversation where I told him that everything he’s done in the past two years didn’t mean anything compared to what I overhead that night and I felt embarrassed and ashamed…. The past two weeks when I look at him I make myself feel that warmth and lovingness towards him and he’s really reciprocated. But, alas, I get that feeling that he’s unattainable….regardless that I do leg exercises to increase my butt size, take vitamins and minerals, do my daily protein shake, clean the house, walk and feed the animals, making payments on the tv he wanted and the cable needed, do his laundry, buy groceries, and give him money when he’s in a bind. Ugh, I’m worth a lot and I guess I don’t want to..or I’m scared of being a stupid blowup f**k doll. I want him…to want me. He says I need to love myself for that to happen..and not talk about it, but do it. Thing is..I feel I do love myself, but as someone who often times gives out the advice I feel like the smart thing to do would be to leave. I’m stubborn haha and I’m like “I’ve given you all I can..you’re in a better place because of me…love me damnit!” Let me reiterate he’s all things typical Pisces male on top of this…maybe I don’t want to be outsmarted? He says he doesn’t play games…I say he is the game…and I want to win. I want to turn that key to his heart he’s been saying is there and he’s handing it out to me…he wants to love…I want to be loved…I’m trying to have us meet in the middle..and I’m on my “last chance” as of the past two weeks and I don’t plan on messing up. Aquarius and Pisces compatibility…..almost, but not quite.

What is your Sun, Moon, & Rising from your natal chart? That can help in understanding more…

Also from what I’ve read that you posted makes me aware that he has already seen this girl probably since the bar night or he could have seen another girl instead. He probably is aware of you reading his texts and more, cause no Pisces would ever be that silly to let their significant other hear or snoop through their stuff unless they were setting you up, make you the bad guy, and find a reason to accuse you of everything.

The fact that you mentioned he has a Virgo moon means he meticulous with how he handles things emotionally. In other words, he will be critical on some level about you and everything you do emotionally in expression. And that he has a Gemini Rising, this means he is a natural flirt, he can’t help that, but this also means he is prone to being easily bored with a significant other. He likes challenges mentally and when he meets someone for the first time, he charms them, woos them, even makes them laugh and is the life of the party. But after that his mask comes off and the Pisces persona takes over.

I guarantee he already knows you don’t trust him, his intuition probably picked that up, but he is setting you up, so he can play the victim again, by leaving his cell phone in places he KNOWS you would look and have conversations in places he KNOWS is easy to hide near by, he may seem naive, but he is far from it, due to his virgo (moon) and gemini (rising) both ruled by mercury, the sign of the mind, brain, and mental stimulation.

Anyway this is a small information about gemini rising from cafeastrology:

“In one-to-one relationships, Gemini rising people often seek a certain amount of personal freedom and space. They enjoy intellectual debates and exchanging ideas. Although they often demand a fair amount of freedom, they are often just as willing to give their partners room to breathe.”

Basically, if you are trying to reign him in when he isn’t ready, then he will rebel against you…

Also this is to everyone, right now Uranus is going to leave all Pisces (males and female) on May 27th and into all Aries (male and female) till August 18th. Uranus was in Pisces from 2003 and will be up till May 27th 2010. It’ll be back in Pisces till sometime in 2011, then fully moving into Aries for a good 7 years for all aries to be liberated from things that hold them down… thats why all pisces were rebelling, acting detached, and different from what all astrologers say about Pisces these last 8 years…