How to conquer an Aries man
December 5, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
What are you thinking? That’s like beating up Aries Russell Crowe in Gladiator.
But, no, you must mean sexually conquer.
You’ve got an uphill battle, because Aries likes to do the conquerin’. Aries is ruled by Mars, the warrior planet. He likes to win. You’re not likely to beat him at his own game.
However, you can be his better half. The Aries man is attracted to his opposite — and what’s the antithesis of brutish and aggressive?
Libra!
Be charming, gracious, beautiful and balanced. Once your Aries man stops grunting, he’ll put down his stick and see that you make up for his boorishness.
Comment below: How have you conquered an Aries man?
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Does this advice apply if you want to conquer a man with Mars in Aries? Or with Venus in Aries? Thanks!
Marly,
I would say the same for Mars in Aries as for Sun in Aries.
A man with Venus in Aries, however, may be attracted to an aggressive, go-getter type of woman.
Thanks, Jeffrey!!
Hi, what about a man with Sun and Mars conjunct in Aries and a Pisces Venus? I’m a Pisces with my Venus in Aries. So far we get along great, though his temper sometimes gets the better of him. Any suggestions?
Your each having Venus in the other’s Sun sign is a boon. With a Sun-Mars conjunction in Aries, he will always be quick to anger. The question is how you deal with it. As a Pisces, you may at times feel too sensitive to be around that aggressive energy. But you can also just let it move through you without letting it get you upset.
Thanks, Jeffrey.
Having a Moon in Scorpio, I turn icy when his temper flares and distance myself from him. He always comes around with apologies later. I guess silence and distance is my reaction…
I remember only 2 Aries that I “conquered” and neither was deliberate.
I knew both through someone else, and we were friends.
With one, who was much older thna I, I was flirtatious, and behaved in an inviting ay–all the while thinking it was alll in fun.
I thought he thought I was fun, and yes, attractive, but it tunrs out he was crazy about me.
Basically the same thing happpened wiht the other man.
This one I become freinds with when he and his wife pslit up, –I was mildly attracted to him one night after we talked all night about relationships etc.
He apparently was really “sparked” by that –he got a big crush on me–I liked him lots, but sadly, not that way.
Hi I want to capture the heart of an Aries man that I have know for years. We are friends that are now after 15 yrs talking about dating. We have a lot in common and want the same things. I am an aquarious. We really click and I want to try to have a secure future with him. Any tips on how to do that??
I’m a libra girl madly inlove with an aries:)My venus is in libra and mars in sagittarius. His venus is in aquarius and mars in libra. Are we compatible? They say opposites attract and he sure is attracting me. He’s my opposite: decisive manly, brave, headstrong and just the typically aries man. I’m a typical libra: girly, indecisive, polite and like to please.
Any librans out there who have had any experience with arians?
Hi,
And yes I’m a Libra and yes I’ve dated an Aries man. From my experience…*cough
Aries men are very attractive and are strong willed..opinionated….and very good to talk to for hours on end. Mine was cptivated by me but I eventually broke up with b/c his temper was too much =***(
So if your like me, you like balance in your life and its hard to maintain this with Aries..BUT never say never….=)
Hi Marly,
I couldn’t help but put in my two cents. I’m an aries (mars) woman who, all my life, only seems to attract aries men. I understand the initial attraction one could have to an aries ..but it has the tendency to wear off quickly. Yes, most aries men are charming, but they are also (in a very general way) contentious, ALWAYS right, and highly sexual. SOund good right? The down side to the great sexual appetite is that when the passion begins to enter a comfort zone, aries men begin to look for greener pastures. This is probably because they actually believe that passion should remain at boiling point throughout the entire length of a relationship.
If you want a man with great passion, strength and intellect (that is also a good guy) try a pisces or scorpio.
Hi Marly,
I’m an aries (Mars) woman. Though a tad different from men, I can tell you right now… so overrated.
Aries men are charming, yes… but they are ALWAYS right, can be single-minded, sexual (when they feel like it), and they tend to look for greener pastures some time.
If you want passion and excitement, try to win over a Pisces.
This post is facinating, and has made me reflective…
I’m similarly aspected as Anon. (who is P with V in A)… I was involved with a young woman whose Sun and Mars was in A, and Venus in P, too… I can’t help but wonder whether these two are still together…
in my situation, we turned out to be like these candies: Zoltz Fizz Sours, or Lotsa Fizz… sort of gives credence to Maud’s comments…
now, I will concede as man who has “Venus in Aries”, I’m generally “attracted to an aggressive, go-getter type woman”… but, it’s difficult for me to digest that having “Venus in the other’s Sun sign is a boon”
For those intent on being Sun Tzu, willing to enter a clash with Aries, be conscious of my failures:
1. Ensure you have a common goal (their goal)
2. Do not show emotion (whether it’s a single tear of bitterness, or you being upfront and detailing how you care about them)… Avoid it!… unless its temporary anger (only one they truly understand)…
3. If you discover an Arien flaw, don’t point it out.
4. Let ‘em do what they want, they will anyway.
5. Laud them for what they do for you.
6. It’s “their rules”, they’ll tell you
7. Don’t offer help, they don’t need it
8. Do not pressure them, or back them in a corner
9. Realize that unless you become “family”, you are “nothing”… (look to Anon., being friends is the key)
Now, upon reading this, you would think I wrote it because I’m scorn… not so… I also have parents with major planets in the sign…
they are good people to those in their circle…
they’ll go to war if they want to… so, you better have some natural resources… assets they deem worth fighting for…
Now.. I am an Aries man.. *cough!.. My Mars is in Pisces, Moon in Gemini.. so quite a combination. And I see that everyone picks on the “mobility” of my sign. I have had 2 major relationships in life.. one of 5 years and the second one of 3 years (on-going).. both of the ladies being Aquarius. There are always exceptions.. and the key point is that you will never be able to fit Aries (men or women) into a frame. They are too different. OK, there are some personality traits which they may share.. but that is it. Then there is the IQ, the EQ, the life experience and degree of maturity of the individual. And ultimately this is what we are.. our image shaped by our past, by our experience and by our native traits.
. Ask the Aquarians and the Leo (the latter ones may be not too kind with us, but they still love us). It is all about spirits alike.
So no.. not two Aries are the same (other signs too for that matter) although they may react similarly to the same stimulus. And yes.. I take a peek to some lovely Libra, Cancer or Pisces ladies… but I keep my distance. There is something different about them which tells me they are too fragile for my fiery temper. And I also keep a respectable distance from Scoripo ladies (as attractive and provocative as they may be).. No point in using energy on useless “wars”.
So .. don’t put us in the same pot.. we do not like it and it is not safe for the pot.. LOL. Joking. We can be quite a catch (modest as an Arian) if one can.. catch us. And do not think this happened once you slept with an Arien. Passionate we will always be.. and we will fight for what is ours (or we belive that it is).. And yes, I give you that.. we are not the most easy-going partner one may have, but then we only need one partner.. not all the world
hi i am a scorpio woman so far so good, he does get hot headed though at times and i try and calm him down, plus he has this thing about me in girly clothes. he is romantic and so am i.what do you think
all things I read about aries makes my knees all shivering.
My new bf is an aries, im a sag. For 5 years he didnt have a relationship, I think the sex haha conquered him. He’s completely smitten now! He cannot even believe he’s fallen for me! haha He’s so in love or so he says, hes moving back from sweden to the U.S just for me, the place he loves, then again Im thinking maybe because I acted non-jealous, like i was just having a good time w/ him and nothing else. Pretty much like I wasnt too interested, they love that! I also told him I was dating other people and he wasnt the only I was seeing. Im a sag, loved my sense of humor and just my positive outlook on life! Im open for any new adventures and he loves that. I was just myself, dorky, funny self. I love aries men!
Another person I dated was an aries, now i just didnt like his cockiness and his I know it all attitude and I was blunt enough to tell him. I didnt want to see him, he kept insisting that he really liked me, but i told him i wasnt interested. To this day im sure he would love to be with me. They love the chase! They want what they cant have! so true
The boy that Im dating right now is an Aries, but so am I. We have everything in common and have so much fun together. Im afraid that we'll have problems down the road because of the way we are. Is there anything I can do to make this relantion work & last?
I am a Libra woman who recently broke up with an Aries man… and I need help. Here’s what happened: we dated for about 5 months (him chasing me, him saying “I love you first,” etc.)I was not interested in him at first (a lot of people told me I could do way better “looks-wise”) but the sex was great, the chemistry was great, and he treated me like a queen. I was only the second serious relationship he ever had. I graduated from college and went abroad to Africa for a few months and he stayed in the states. The first few weeks, he emailed every day telling me how much he missed me and loved me, and then he out of the blue called one day to tell me he couldn’t do it anymore. He gave me no explanation other than that he couldn’t handle the distance. I saw him for the first time this past weekend, and even though he was constantly flirting and watching me from across the bar, I somehow still felt like I wasn’t in control. I consider my looks my best weapon when it comes to him, so I need to know how I can use them (and maybe the fact that he once loved me) to regain control. I know that I’m playing games, and I’m fine to admit it.. just someone tell me my best strategy!!
I will be seeing him at our college for a football game in 2 weeks (we broke up about 2 mos ago, and I saw him last weekend but not in a private setting). I want to get him alone somehow, which I think can best be done using sex, but I need to know how. SOMEONE HELP! My ego and happiness depends on it:)
This little post has provoked a lot of thought for me. I am a Sagittarius, newly in a romantic relationship with an Aries. We’ve been friends for more than two years, though, and he’s really liked me all throughout. I think the way I keep him interested in me is by playing games. Everything we do together, it seems to be against each other – like a challenge. Ariens love to win, no matter how long it takes. I know – I’m constantly being watched and wanted by them (but not watched for too long – they can’t bear not to act on their feelings).
Even for a tomboy like me, I understand that Aries males like femininity in their women. They require softness and balance. I often think I have neither of these traits, but if an Aries man has let you know he wants you then you’re possibly being too hard on yourself.
Watch out though – commitment can be almost as scary for an Aries as it is for us Sagittarians! If you want him, though, be as gracious and charming, smiling and alluring as you can. Oh, don’t forget – play hard to get once he has an interest. Though don’t take it too far – he can turn cold as easily as he turns hot.
I’m a cancer gal and i’ve been into this Aries guy for sometimes (2 years) now and i think i’ve bee rejected many times but i just can’t let go… Everytime i talk to him, he always manage to say something hurtful to me, he’s always critisizing me but when i think of the good times we had at the onset of the so call “realtionship,” i just can’t let go (we were never trully committed to each other)… My new years resolution is to stop calling him (He ussually calls once in a blue moon or not at all). So far it’s working but he’s always on my mind and i’m afraid that i’ll break down one day and call… He was truly a Knight in shining armor for me and all sense of the word… What a girl to do?????? I’m tired of being hurt all the time but i miss having “us”….
hello iam a libra (woman) and i just broke up with my boyfriend whos an aries. He’s crazy, point blank. when we first start talkin it was great. and then he start to freak me out.it was always his way or know way, I love him.but i know hes know good for me.but 4 some reason i cant break him off me….i wish sometime i never new him, but its hard…its like 3 weeks pass by everything all good.and then the next week, he goes crazy like hes bipolar…iam tired of it so i turn his phone off so he wont think this is just another on going thing.and making it seem like its all good,but well see what will happene…wish me good luck….
thanks sherm
well i have known this aries man for bout a year now..n i really just pissed him off..everytime we go forward i do somthing 2 go backwards..im a aquarius by the way…so how can i make it up 2 him..it wasnt nothin like cheating…jus takin his not communicating with me the wrong way..his in the army by the way…i guess i have trust issues 2 and want attention so i kinda said some things that i shouldnt have said..so how can i make it up 2 him….please any advice
I came across this post and I found it very interesting. I am a Libra woman and I have been friends with my Aries male for 4 years. He started off as my manager and have not worked together in almost 2 years. I am posting my story because I have never had an Aries male friend and his behavior is perplexing to me to say the least. We instantly hit it off almost from the day we starting working together, constant banter, him flirting and just generally having a good time together. We are both married so I really have never thought about anything else than friendship. What is weird is that he ebbs and flows with our friendship and has a temper. There are some days he may text me 10-15 times but then I do not hear from him in a week and then it starts all over again. He will never say anything negative about his wife but sadly enough she is not very nice to him and I do not bring it up as their relationship is none of my business. What I do not understand is why this guy who SUCH an ARIES in every way puts up with his homelife. He has been married about 18 years and I have tried to get to know his wife but she is just a very nasty person (Leo). I also do not understand why he keeps up such an intense friendship with me if he is so defensive about his home life? I have been trying to understand some of the characteristics of the Aries male so that I can understand him better. Any incite would help. Thank you.
I’m a libra girl (23) and recently started dating a Aries man (3 months he’s almost 23)….. Ok.. so… At first it was great…. I think we spent most nights together…. he told me that he wouldn’t even bring me to his house if he wasn’t highly interested and after about a week he was introducing me to the family as his girl. So I get the point that they are very straight forward…. which brings me to my question… He has been extremely distant over the last week in a half… ( I may be too needy I dunno) and spending a lot of time with his family… I spoke to his grand mother and seen him a couple times with his brother or at his cousins (so I’m not sure if it is another woman… although it could be) but he only returns my calls when he thinks I need him for something… and when I tell him I need to see him or I want to spend time.. he says yeah right like he is doubting I want to see him…. he’s been busy… but to not spend any one on one time for like a week is that normal? Am I being to needy. I swear I hate relationships.
I had a friend that was an Aries and for the first year or so he didn’t really talk to me. Then after spending a lot of time with him he ended up having a secret friendship. The reason why it seemed secret was because he had a girlfriend and he would constantly shower me with compliments. I started feeling very, naughty, about all of this and after several months of sexual tension he finally asked me one day if I would ever sleep with someone that was in a relationship (very typical forward Aries move) and in a moment of morality I said “no”. That pretty much put a wet blanket on the growing fire of desire, which in a way relieved me. I’m a Gemini with Libra rising and a Gemini Moon, so I’m petty much always on the fence and my fickleness makes it hard to make anything solid with Aries. I dated an Aries for a few weeks and I didn’t have sex with him, then I moved away and visited my hometown at a few months and ran into him, we immediatly had the best spontaneous sex ever. Now I’m in a situation where my friend’s roomate has turned me onto him completely yet he has a girlfriend too! He tried seducing me but the adultery didn’t turn me on (which, admittedly, hasn’t stopped me before with other signs like Scorpio), I want him available even if there are no strings attached.
I always connect well with Arian men and I generally do not fret about getting them because, in my egotistical mind, I know that eventually they will come around. They also are the only one night stand that I do not get hung up over, they essentially are my perfect match.
Pretty Gem.
i’m suprised i havent read any leo/aries couples on here yet. to me they are both made for eachother, i’ve always wondered why most astrology sites say sag/leo and aries/sag are compatible because most of the time sag’s only want a fling. they have to have their freedome, and i hate that! i broke up with a sag about 5 months ago, best decision i ever made. now i’m currently with my aries ex and do not regret getting back with him at all. and to chip i have to comment on your post
9. realize that unless you become “family”, you are “nothing” i definetly agree with you on that, my aries man will only let certain people in and will rarely let them in as “family” so your very lucky if you get an aries man to get consider you apart of their family 
I had a long “situation” with an aries that dragged on for way too long.
I think it’s finally over. It was never anything real. We met about 4 years ago and when I found out he had a girlfriend he started ignoring me which led me to ignore him. I contacted him online about 2 years later to see how he’s been but he just got really defensive and didn’t want to talk. I wrote him a few more times very briefly but he never responded. I recently sent him a msg and he added me as a friend. I was hesitant to accept his request cause i realized he was a flake at that point and didn’t feel like dealing with him anymore. But then I added him and wrote him one night when he was online. We chatted a bit and I took out some of my anger at him but it turned out playful cause he didn’t backfire. We just laughed it off. I then said I’d like to have a real conversation with him sometime and suggested facebook wasn’t going to work. He ignored that for a while and then said i should tell him when is a good time for me. so i wrote back and told him to give me a call but i didn’t want to give him my number cause I didn’t feel like sitting by the phone and waiting until I knew he actually wanted to call me. I ended up sending him my number a few days ago. And I could care less now. I’m ready to move on. It’s been 4 years since we’ve met there’s been a lot of off and on trying to reconnect and get each others attention but it’s obviously not working and I’m done trying. Anyway… that was hell.
He’s an aries i’m pretty sure aries moon too and pisces venus, taurus mars.
I’m a scorpio, sagitarius moon and scorpio venus, libra mars.
Headache. Thats all I’ve got to say about aries. Or just this one. He’s an especially annoying one. I don’t even know him but he’s driven me nuts enough for me not to want to.
Hi, I am Aries, my Venus in Pisces (4th house), Mars in Taurus (5th house); he’s Aries too, Venus in Aries (5th house), Mars in Cancer (8th house). How I “conquer” him. I think it isn’t possible do it.
Sadge girl here! comment on chisseiex. First of all i resent the sagittarius comment. Leos are drama queens and kings and want center of all attention at all cost, every day is a show. and two, it depends on your moon and rising sign to determine your compatibility. I love companionship and would live for it. I can’t wait to be a mom and a wife and would prefer to be a housewife with an aries man. I just fear that i would be controlled, because most sag people has a mind thing. if you get into their head before their heart, then you got them completely. that’s where the fear of freedom is. see you must first understand a sag before commit on one. I was greatly offended.
i’m sorry freedom_ahoy i did not mean to offend anyone in anyway with my post. i was just simply stating that the sagittarius men and women that i have met have all wanted to be ‘free’. i have never met a sag that wanted to commit. i tried to with my old sag man but he kept going from fling to fling, it was a new girl everyday and i got tired of it; so i guess i was just venting! like i said, i didn’t mean to offend and i’m sorry, i do not think all sags are like that. i’ve been waiting to meet a sag like you because their great people, i just want a sag man to finally commit but i’m happy with my aries man and wouldn’t trade him for the world
we need more successful leo/aries stories btw!
Aries men are impossible.Im a Cancer gal an Ive been dealing with my Aries man for 5 years. I gave him everything in the begining smothered him a little bit. And He’d never commit …but the emotinal anxiety and this tit 4 tat bullshit left me emotinally raw. When Im honest with myself Im still in love with him and theres nothing under the sun that I wouldt do for him. But how can you learn 2 take loves emotinal rollercoaster who prides off your insecurities, laugh’s when your mad…wines when he doesnt get his way…Wants his cake and expects to eat it to. When your cold and blunt( which isnt Cancer’s nature) they latch 2 u like a newborn with a nipple? Its been 5 years now and our fling has supposidly come to a end. Although when I look in his eyes behind his petty laughs I know its not over because I know him. Ive known him since I was 14…gave him my virgintiy ,my heart, my soul…all he is ,is a constant game. But this sick [deleted] enjoys it. how will i ever know how he feels about me when directly asking him doesnt work…N a previous conversation he said at one point and time he loved me but hes still playing games. I know he hasnt lost interest by the way he carries on. When we met I was a insecure tomb0y but that was at 14 ..Now at 18…im sexy …lady like with pizzaz and he cant get enough. i found that this new era only motivates his game. Im done bein A Toy.HELPPPPPP!!!! How do you know a aries is really into you?
Hi! I’m an Aries man and i fell deeply in fove for a Libra woman.
As an Aries i can assure you that Aries can be very loyal , very friendly and companions for a lifetime.
Although the Libra woman is my exact oposite, i feel a great caring about her, because she is everything that i’m not, and being in love with such a person has been a richfull experience for me. If the purpose of love is the inner development, then i found my match.
In the begining of the relationship, you may doubt about if it is going to work because of his selfishness. Don’t be fooled. The fear of losing the loved one will speak louder to the heart and ultimatly, the selfishness will give place to afection. After that, it’s all about balance and mutual respect. In the end, you will realize that winning someone’s heart is not an instant task, is a continuous task that lasts for a lifetime, think about it.
I was reading whatever wrote and Im still puzzled. Im a Gemini woman married to a younger Aries man…marriage has gone flat to done in the bedroom. Problem is Im getting very attached to an older Aries man and the sparks are there so hot its hard to catch my breath when Im with the olde Aries…help me Im stuck and confused????
portuguese_gentleman … HIT IT RIGHT ON THE HEAD! and i’m just wondering why everyone wants to “conquer” and arian???? HA HA HA….good luck with that. i’m a leo in love with an arian, but he had to break me down…eh, he’s still working on it. kidding. he has broken my heart, not in a bad way but he’s always been the persuer. i have many arian gentlemen friends and from my experience, either it IS or is ISN’T…you can’t force it and especially with a RAM, can you say hard headed and rambunkcious!?!?!?
THE SAG GIRL HATING ON LEOS THOUGH. YOU’RE BEING WAY TOO BROAD CHICK. I ENJOY ATTENTION AND AFFECTION AS MUCH AS THE NEXT GAL BUT I SHY AWAY FROM DRAMA, CONFRONTATION AND VAINITY. JUST B/C LEOS HAVE A NATURAL GLOW, INVITING PRESENCE, AND ARE A NATURAL CHALLENGE IT ISN’T OUR FAULT!!!! ( :
I’m a Libra girl heading down the slippery slope with an aggressive Aries male. At first I thought what a macho self opinionated pig and had no intentions of seeing him again…that was 2 months ago…Now he made it clear from day 1 he is going to have me despite my protests…he continues to charm and break down my walls..It is very scary since I did not even like the man but his male aggression has softened my female resistance….I can only wait and see what happens since he clearly likes a challenge.
Hi,
I am a pisece woman ,i met an Aries guy who seems to be nice, however he is very hesitated and loves things his way. I like the guy but don’t know how to deal with his fear of getting closer to each other and i don’t mean sexually.
He has fear of commitment (emotional commitment) do u have any advice for me??
i am running mad. iam a taurus dating aries guy. how do i keep him? we been dating 1month.ego clash
jameelah,
you both have to understand that its not bout pride or ego or being stubbon..its about the feeling you have for each other. Once you understand that in love one can never be conquered orsurrender than things will get better.
I have had the same problems with my Taurus man..
“PUT DOWN HIS STICK” oooooh…..I’ve never been with a raw creature like that! Ive had a few Aries guys on oposing sides during circumstance, my ex husbands lawyer for example….I remember those feirce eyes when he told me that I drove him crazy when we argued….
I’ve never had an Aries male as a friend though, that would be nice, I hear that they are good friends
THey are sexy, even when you dont find them attractive at first glance, in an arguement, they are HOT!!!!!
you will not conquer any Aries if u have too ask this question its why you and that aries didn’t work out in the first place. You can steal their hearts and once you have their hearts you will have them. but never conquer them. We are free spirits in that way. too independent for that.
okay this aries guy tried to talk to me one time he was very charming, but i was very shy so i didnt say much. the next time i saw him he asked me if i knew his name, i smiled and shook my head no (but i actually did)and he turned his head and went back to doing what he was doing. But then i told him i was just kidding i knew his name. if i had left it at no would his feelings be hurt, would he feel like i regected him or didnt notice him he. Or would he take it as a challenge and want to persue me more ?? Can an aries man or someone whos delt with them please tell me how they think.
by the way his birthday is april 10, if it matters