If I back off from Taurus man will he want me more?
November 25, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
The question implies that the querent was encroaching on the Taurus man’s turf, and he responded in kind by digging in his heels. He probably felt threatened. You see, the Taurus man is not keen on change. He needs to feel secure, and if a woman tries to change the perimeter of his fence, he won’t budge an inch.
If the Taurus man feels he is going to lose whatever provides him security, his fear-response will kick in. He needs to know you won’t force him to move too fast. After all, he’s worked hard to acquire his hard-earned plot of land, and he’s not going to let go of it easily.
So you step back. Will you — in having given him room to roam — trigger in him a greater desire for you?
There are two things you must remember: Taurus does not like change, and Taurus loves comfort. The first part comes from being a fixed sign, the second comes from being ruled by Venus, goddess of sensual pleasure. His modus operandi is to seek and acquire that which is beautiful and feels good to his body. Yet he’s not going to take many risks to do so. He will be slow, cautious and persistent … but if he really wants it, he will get it, just in his own sweet time.
So you need to appeal to his desire for the finer things in life, without being too unconventional (Aquarian), intense (Scorpionic) or dramatic (Leonine). Be like the water in a stream, the smooth rocks on an incline, the moss blanketing a tree. He will come to you, dip his toes in the water or feel the contours of your surface, and nestle in your curves if it feels good and safe.
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wulkure, i dunno…how do i know? lol
daisy, hunny…i know exactly how you feel and a dozen of women in this site who’s having problems with their bulls. this is what i’ve learned from all men but didn’t really realize until i have been involved with a stubborn bull — just do what you gotta do and love will just come to you when you least expect it
‘just do what you gotta do and love will just come to you when you least expect it’
When I least expects it… Hmm I realise when I am good to him, he withdraws… When I withdraw, he comes near.
Maybe I should just avoid him and see what happens…
yo daisy…be reluctant in everything he asks u to do….make him really chase u 4 it….(booty….a date….whtever)
this Leo chik did tht to me…shed always avoid me…but wud in the end ALWAYS…agree to meet me….tht kept me interested in her…and she never said “i like u” until we broke up….
anyway point is….it worx….
hi…what do you feel about the concept of loving someone, can it be real do you think?
Wulkure…
You are right.. Taurian does forget peoples birthday. He called me yesterday and asked me when is my birthday? He gotten a bit mixed up and I was really sad about it…
How can he forget my birthday?
I refused to tell him.. He got a bit paranoid and sms me a few times apologising and called me again. I ended the call early as i was busy and he sms me at night asking how am i… which I never replied.
Lets see if he persist asking.. Which I guess he may not since he had already decided to move on.
Its kinda
Y cant love be real? Of course it is real. Its just whats your expectation of love.. Whether its a delusional concept or a true to life concept.
Wulkure:
Out of curiosity.. How was ur relationship with a Leo woman. Im a Leo and was seeing, well chatting should I say with a taurus man..And trust me I got my work cut out for me..Got any suggestions for this Leo gyal..Or should I just forget about it since these two signs seem to be always butting heads?
Thanx in advance
im sure u got interested in the way he talked…all bad-ass and rude….
donno bout u…but tht girl wanted a stable guy…who din jus go after the loox
so im prty sure he thinx ur a looker (im hopin u are cuz u wont stand a chance otherwise)….Leos are very complex….they like to be called….remembered…respected….more thn any of the other signs i have evr dated…(or…met…hehhh)….we are 2 opposites…u like to be worshipped…we are tooo lazy and to-hell-wuth-it to give tht kinda attention…so if ur willing to lower ur inherent ego and self-centered attitude…it may just work..
regardless….the sex will be unlike anyother….
ur move…
Daisy…uve made him chase u enuff….dont overdo it…or he may just move on wen the ‘hunger’ pangs really set in…kno wht i mean??
and ….for petes sakes….dont make him remmebr ur dates….he WONT!!!!
get wit the program….although….we relish it tht ur upset tht we forgot to wish u on an occassion….thts the gud part…
Wulkure:
I could’nt have nailed this one better..YES the sex was like no other..Very intense (veryyyyyyy)and I did lower my ego and not expect him to give me the TLC I always crave and needed.. To make a long story short..I ve been seeing this taurus dude for about 1 yr..started of veryyyyyyyyyyy slow..then about 3 months ago Mister T was spending more and more time at my place and would sleep over almost every night. Then out of the blue he slowly began indirectly moving in..It started with a toothbrush, then he started bringing some of his clothing to my place. etc..So here we are this “not couple” spending every night together AND NOT HAVING SEX..Oh yes U read correctly..He stopped having sex..We went from regular amazing sex to no sex at all for 2 months with him still sleeping over and sharing the same bed…LIKE ARE U KIDDING ME.. So I recently confronted and asked if this was goin anywhere (after a year putting up with this) ..Like c’mon ur half way moved into my place so I kinda had the right to ask..Well guess what he replied ” Dont break ur head for me ..im out” WOW that was a slap in the face..So here I am are today Taurusless..We messaged eachother a few time but thats about it..I would do anything to get him back but think I might have lost him for good..
Right Wulkure lol ??? any way I might get him back being a taurus man urself
Wulkure…
does taurean goes yoyo all the time? He could call me happily consequtively for a few days and not contact me for a few days…
And I feel that he is such person who does not like people to contact him. He likes to initiate contact at his own pace.
@daisy
i dunno if it’s a taurus trait but my bull ain’t good with dates cuz he also forgets his family’s birthdays.
@jessica
that also happened to me before lol. he didn’t totally moved in with me but he would go to my place a lot. we stopped having sex at one point because we literally do that everyday when we first started dating, plus this is the time when he would try to get to know you on a friendship level…because he’s already comfortable with you. now he’s got his own place, i didn’t move in with him cuz i want to keep things exciting for now. sex has gotten better and he seems to have all the energy all night lol
@ anotherariesgirl
Ur right I guess it was his way of getting to know me on a friendship level…Well I kinda kicked myself in the behind when i ended up confronting him about the whole “are we a couple” thing after 1 year of goin back and forth..i guess the whole moving in thing threw me off and i felt that maybe he was ready to move onto the next level..FOOLLED ME ALRIGHT!!! I should have continued letting things go with the flow..OUFFFFF wow never been so complicated..Well at the moment we havnt spoken nor messaged eachother in a while..so i gues i lost him..what do u thing??? do i stand another change???? what should i do????