If I back off from Taurus man will he want me more?

TaurusThe question implies that the querent was encroaching on the Taurus man’s turf, and he responded in kind by digging in his heels. He probably felt threatened. You see, the Taurus man is not keen on change. He needs to feel secure, and if a woman tries to change the perimeter of his fence, he won’t budge an inch.

If the Taurus man feels he is going to lose whatever provides him security, his fear-response will kick in. He needs to know you won’t force him to move too fast. After all, he’s worked hard to acquire his hard-earned plot of land, and he’s not going to let go of it easily.

So you step back. Will you — in having given him room to roam — trigger in him a greater desire for you?

There are two things you must remember: Taurus does not like change, and Taurus loves comfort. The first part comes from being a fixed sign, the second comes from being ruled by Venus, goddess of sensual pleasure. His modus operandi is to seek and acquire that which is beautiful and feels good to his body. Yet he’s not going to take many risks to do so. He will be slow, cautious and persistent … but if he really wants it, he will get it, just in his own sweet time.

So you need to appeal to his desire for the finer things in life, without being too unconventional (Aquarian), intense (Scorpionic) or dramatic (Leonine). Be like the water in a stream, the smooth rocks on an incline, the moss blanketing a tree. He will come to you, dip his toes in the water or feel the contours of your surface, and nestle in your curves if it feels good and safe.

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

Comments

  1. @Wulkure

    I know that I sunk to a very low place, instead of finding some one to talk to about what I was feeling (which had nothing to do w/my Taurus.. which he is 4/28) I went to another man. I am not proud of this… I have apologized and promised this wont happen again (he is doing the whole wait and see… put your money where your mouth is… option.. and I understand why). I have completely gotten rid of the person I was with and am ok with losing that 15 yr friendship to keep my 14 yr relationship.

    He get frustrated w/me cause I am aggressive at times and like to argue (well I dont like to but i do it very well). He tells me be happy with the little battles you win and you may just win the war… I just want to win his heart back… and will do just about anything to do so… This is one very lost and crushed Virgo

    And I am a mom of a preteen and 2 smaller children… But I have explained to my eldest my wrongs and apologized to him and my middle child too…

  2. @Bliss..” the words you want to hear mean nothing if their isn’t substance behind them and that is what the Taurus needs to feel before going there.”

    -that goes for him too! and that is what she is looking for from him and he’s not giving it.

    Good lord Libralady..did we date the same guy?? LOL As a cap with Aries rising, i didn’t have the patience for for his wishy-washy..bull! He stalked me online for a bit but wouldn’t call/text me. That ended when i called him out on it. Told him since he couldn’t seemingly move forward to just let me go to find someone who could.

    Seems like they have double standards..u can’t talk to anyone else, see anyone else, but its ok if I do..BULL!

  3. LibraLady11 says:

    @Cap Baby yes I just don’t be knowing sometimes ! And I swear sometimes I think they sit there & make you mad just to get a reaction out of you. Because he”ll do something to me and then ill get all mad & he will say he’s just playinq I’m like WTF y play so much b/c I get hella serious but I try not to b/c i dk when he is playinq or not. & w. Them you have to be careful & think what you are sayinq b4 you say it b/c tauruses will take what you say & get out of it what they heard and nothing else smh ! Very close minded people ! And I so understand the double standard thing b/c he expects me to not talk to no other men but yet he just told me he at 1st wasn’t but is now talking to other women. Like how are you mad at me bit you are doing the same thing & you still aren’t MY BOYFRIEND -_- ! He’s weird ! Lol that stalking thing aha he does that to me all the time he
    is always reading my posts to me off FB and I’m like oooookay what’s that about ahaha! I think that’s funny though lol ! But when we are together he is so nice. Yesterday everytime he has food he shares with me w. Is so nice and generous lol he told me he had to make sure I ate lol I laugh so caring SOMETIMES smh ahahaa @capbaby crazy shit !

  4. In 2009 I had a love affair with the guy of my dreams. When he fianally got to slow down and see him he wasn’t willing to let me go. I have a health condition that I knew would get in the way. But I still indugle anyway. After about 3months I finally told him and he cried and told me we was over. I didn’t want to accept it, but evenually came to terms. Still I love him I never miss his birthday and I call every month sometimes more than other. He said he can’t trust me because he believes I shouldn’t been up front. But he also tell me thing like , he can count his friends on one. Hand and I’m one of them. He always there to give me advice, and any else he can do for me but there can’t be no us. I try though desipe his words because his actions say he still loves me. It been 3years since our break up. I was the one he wanted to marry he wanted to have a family together. Wanted me to move in with and all. He’s well off and have woman that he can pick but won’t pick me. And like a lot of you guys. I thought I will wait. Until tonight, we was suppose to meet up in the early evening to just talk, but he never answered. He’s a real sports addict and the finals was tonight and I completly forgot. But I texted him and told him what the talk was bout….me wanting him, and me letting go. Only said that cuz I hate being ignored. And his text back was ” ok sweetheart!” I can’t stop crying can’t sleep. Because it was a text there could be different meaning behide it. My question to you quys is should I call and face his feelings or take what was said and let go and let god?

  5. CancerCusp says:

    Ok, So I need advise. I am in the process of divorcing my husband who is a Virgo and I a Cancer. We have been married for 9 1/2 years, I have my mind made up and its happening! Anyhow I recently re-connected with a high school friend that found me on facebook, we spoke on a friendship level,reminising about old times and old friends, anyway I started to catch feelings like ..really fast – never happens! He knows Im married and made it very clear that I will not cross that line until my divorce is finalized. Found out that this guy is a Taurus. I must say that there is a sexual attraction and its so thick.. Ok, long story short – we spoke thru messaging for 2.5 weeks, and one day out of the blue, he asks to sleep with me. I denied him and since then he has been stand offish to the point where he is now telling me we should only be “friends” and nothing else. I agreed but since that conversation we havent spoken, and when I send him a Hello how are you? I get nothing back! ( Background on him – he has a lot of drama goin on – divorce and custody battles and all) I think about this guy all the time and dont know if it just my vulnerability or the fact we really had somthing going.. now Im extremely confused and starting to think I need to let him go. My insecurities are kicking in hadrcore and I feel that he was never really interested in me at all :(

  6. Hi guys,
    Scorpio woman with a Taurus guy. I am Asian and he is French. Together for 4 years! We got engaged and one day, he broke up with me. Suddenly he says he’s not ready. That is after we went to Paris and meet his parents. His dad says that Asian girls will not adapt to French culture. I think he respects his family a lot. So it’s been 8 days no contact. I don’t feel like meeting another guy. He completely ignores me and is very cold now. Nothing like what he used to be. I love this man but I don’t know what happen. He leaves me confused. Always saying it will never work. This is our second break up. First break up he broke up with me n want to come back after 2 weeks. Now, I don’t know. He broke up with me again but I don’t know. It feels like he’s slipping away. N it’s my birthday in 2 weeks. :( sad birthday

  7. Beautyimaq says:

    I’ve been seeing this Taurus guy for almost 4 years the past week he has been ignoring me completely without any explanations as to why. I do believe he still cares but he takes me for granted. I’ve decided to do the same and ignore him. Will it backfire? Or should I just let him go for good. It’s hard because I love him so much.

  8. I’m a gemini I’ve been with my taurus guy since april 2012. I met him the summer of
    2011. Every thing I’ve read here mostly I’ve seen in him. I love him and I want to be with him but he really likes pushing my buttons. Annoying things for no reason, like complaining bout stupid stuff. He’s my kinda guy til he gets all jealous over nobodys who may have like me or like me. I don’t want them I have you , I tell him. He still acts out.

  9. @teefa

    Im also in love with a taurus. And i must say its one of the most stressful things ive ever encountered in my life besides losing my father of course. Anywho That’s their shit. They are extremely possessive. They believe what’s theres is theres only! So i treat him with the same bullshit. If i cant even go as far as saying hello to somebody neither can you. Trust me he’ll eventually let go a little, and and wont be so annoying.

  10. @Beautyimaq

    Don’t ignore him Two wrongs dont make a right. If you start to do that then he’ll just move away you wont even have space to push him because he’ll be gone. Just be up front with him, Let him know you feel as though he’s been a little distant and you dont like it at all and if he has something to tell you he needs or you can just be on some private investigator shit and spy on him!

  11. Ok women.Its simple the taurus males are selfish,They dont care how you feel,They do what they want,Because they are needy of attention,an they want as many women they can get to get it.There shallow,They are fun,fake loving,dont believe a word they say.most are childish and if they are not allowed to run around they will abandon you.But it the beginning they play the in love Roll,they are masters at that,dont tell them too much about past men you have had,If you tell them u have been hurt,THEY PREY ON THAT,they will use it to look as they would,never.an u look in them eyes believing him..its bull..thats funny!!! Anyway if hes young,or been married awhile,now single they,play,the feild til they have a harrem…i promise you,then they do this til they finally settle.an its usually with the weakest,less attractive one..because they have to be center of attention…If they were money you could holdem up to a light an see which ones are fake..Most of them are,.I do believe if theres a true bull out their,He all you women are lookin for in yr males now,..They are Rare.Dont you notice reading about all bulls,They are devorced,witb drama ,ALLWAYZZZZZZZZ But there sign states they hate drama,Bull crap again.They love it.Thats why they ignore texts,calls,..they get off on you worried about it..i dnt care what sign you are,grow up!!An if u dnt want some one text,call,email,&freakin say so,instead of being evil,an enjoying knowing yr hurtinv someonez feelings…SORRY THEY ARE ALL SELFISH .when it comes to love they come first..Then you,…..yr last…If you think your taurus is acting different in any man.thats a red flagg,hes getting attention..if hes a drinker,..hes most likely to hit stripp clubs an say hes with friends..oh but if he gets in trouble he will call the girl who really loves him,an he loves her,..But He takes advantage of that love..This guy I dated.talked about his wife dating other men,..Hes to lazy to devorce her,cux they

  12. I agree with u amy. Taurus men are nothing but sexual creatures and do what they can to get it. If you dont they will ignored, snub, leave the country whatever they can to not know you. But ladies do remember that we all like attention from men even good looking ones but dnt play with their lust or tease them with flirt bcos at the end of the day, u get their hopes up for nothing. Like pursuading them to buy tickets for a no-show. Thats that for now. Taurus men i feel are just too much. Their better off with an sagittarius, leo or scorpio

  13. Im a cancer women and ive dated this taurus guy he was full of b.s . And drama i really liked him but he had to much going on in his life for me .he had two jobs but couldnt afford car gas.are his own place .and he would say that he going to take me out and do a no show are call. I have to call him to see whats up then there camed the excuesses as to why he cant follow thu.i turly feel that i made a great choice to break up with him now. And ive moved on!

  14. LadyCapricorn says:

    I was dating a Taurus man for the last 6 months. Everything was going well until he suddenly decided to put the brakes on the relationship. He said things were moving too fast for him and that I was falling for him faster then he was. Before me, he had gotten out of a 2-3 year relationship and wasn’t ready to commit to another relationship.

    After all was said and done, we broke up. But what didn’t make sense to me was he started texting me the day after, in less than 24 hours? Asking me how I was feeling?

    I’m so confused. He broke up with me. Yet he started texting me the day right after our break-up? This is currently day 2 so I have no other information. I’m trying to figure out what he wants? Does he have a hard time letting go? Is he re-considering the break-up?….*sighs* Never in my life has someone contact me the day after he broke up with me….

    help pls.

  15. I’m going threw the same thing with a taurus,I’m a gemni its been a yr I’m gettn the same old bs day after day I’m tired

  16. im a male taurus, but the rare kind that FINALLY (now that i hit 21 lol) just became able to not only acknowledge but also find ways around most of the shortcomings of Taurus, and also kinda reflected on my thought processes when behaving a certain way…now this is just me so idk about another Taurus, but anyways…
    the dissappearing thing, usually when ive done this with a girl its because i felt what feelings i put out arent being recipricated, and would like i guess the same amount of intrst i show you to be returned..basically if your not reassuring enough for me to think this is real then i cant think that…wont it be easier for us to just say this? yes lol but most of us do more thinking than saying, so you have to either be perceptive OR just ask, youll usually get an honest answer…
    now possesiveness i realized what this REALLY is, fear that the person i went through all this trouble to be with is thinking of another person..this part is as simple as this, if you wouldnt want be to do that dont do that to me, though most taurus simply have a hard time distinguishing between flirting and casual friendliness..even with someone doing that to them, they can easily get the wrong idea…
    so really what it comes down to for both of those actions is a fear of something, of being hurt in some way, but the best way to get to the bottom of it, your very best bet with any taurus, is simply to ask why..ask why for whatever it is thats bothering you..dont beat around the bush because we are kinda intiutively blind and wont catch on to your implications, and ours are very hard to detect, thats why its people on a forum tryin to figure it out lol but to protect our own emotions we wont come out and say it…we should but wont…well idk maybe i speak for myself here xD

    thats all :)

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