I hate Aquarius men
November 24, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
This particular Googler must have been hurt many times. But I must ask: Why do you keep getting involved with Aquarius men in the first place?
Aquarius men can be cold and distant, yes. But you must take responsibility for this compulsion to repeat the same relationship dynamic over and over again. Maybe, Aquarius-hater, you’ve got something in your chart which draws you to Aquarius men who shut you out. Your Sun symbolizes the important men in your life — including your father. If it was making a stressful angle to Uranus when you were born (from our perspective on Earth), then you could be replaying a scenario with men in which you were trying to get love from an emotionally detached father. So you keep falling for Aquarius men, unconsciously hoping that this time it will be different — this time you will traverse the distance he creates, and get the affection you’ve longed for your entire life.
So hate Aquarius men all you want, but realize that until you conquer your inner battle with Uranus, the planet that aims for the heavens (only to neglect Earthlings), nothing will change.
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Jerry didnt youre small mind possibly think I did not read youre question and that i was TALKING ABOUT AQUARIANS…I made it quite CLEAR that I was talking about Aquarians you fool, so you wasted youre own time reading it.
So if you are scratching youre head confuse as i put “youre problems are related”
Let me make this CLEAR
That line obviously didnt apply to you nor did the entire text.
So dont tell me I dont know anything, as you are a complete dim witt for assuming i am writing to you (about a gemini) when I am CLEARLY writing about Aquarians.
BECAUSE…If you havnt noticed this whole thing is called “I hate Aqaurius men”
Now where does Gemini fit in with that.
Rethink…Dumbass
ok Louise : I m sorry
GemAquaLeo
she went out with some other person, then what the use by keeping her in mind ??????????????
Jerry, look. If you read my WHOLE POST, I stated that I DONT know what the problem was… Even if so, I tried to be nice and help you when you replied to my GENERAL post. So DONT blame it all on me out of my generosity.
The first post you made was her signs of affection. And your question was :
“but the prob is I m also cant express my feelings towards her due to this.”
So I gave you advice on how to express your feelings. Now what? Your talking about her going behind your back, getting married, and cheating on you?
Im really angry trying to figure out WHAT you are trying to say. But nevermind. I dont care anymore. Helping you was deffinitely an error when I didn’t know my place. You even knew the answer to your problem! Why post? My advice to you: Go post on a GEMINI blog, Try to make your blogs more READABLE, And don’t make the first line of your post talking about compatibility with an Aquarian when it was trully about a Gemini.
GemAquaLeo :
Now i have a good relationship with a GEM girl but I m
consider her as my sister,but i didn’t told anything about this relationship. ( when i hear the word Gemini I will not 4 get the relationship that I had ) THANKS GemAquaLeo 4 replying
I am an aquarius woman, not sure if the men think the same way but I do find myself doing a lot more for those I love than they know and sometime I forget to let them know how much they matter to me. We are attentive, we care, we are there but we just don’t express it enough or show we care because we are too busy with other things in life that we thought you will notice what we do for you and take it was a matter of fact that “of course, we care, of course, we love you…how dare you doubt us when we did so much for you…”. I think some of you are right, don’t ever take assumption because we are really not the conventional type. As to staying as friends, I personally love to stay as friends with my ex’s and it is not about booty calls…the only time when I did not want to is because I think that person is not a nice person and I am embarrassed to even be his friend…trust me, it has nothing to do being emotional or breaking up…if we want to get back together, we simply just say it and mean it, we may hide our emotions but if you ask us a direct and sincere question, we’ll usually answer it in the same manner, direct and sincere.
AQUARIUS WOMAN if you ask us a direct and sincere question, we’ll usually answer it in the same manner, direct and sincere.
That’s y I love AQUARIUS WOMEN. I NEED ONLY THAT SINCERITY,
Talking about me I always think from her side, She is safe or not then only I will choose what type communication is needed. If she is safe then I will ask direct questions otherwise I will ask indirect questions,the questions only she can understand.I am not interested to see other people joking at her. I am not interested to see her Tears. I LOVE TO SEE THEIR SMILING FACE.
I KNOW THEIR HEART VERY WELL.
That’s Y AQUARIUS WOMAN ARE ENTIRELY DIFFERENT from other WOMAN. They have their own style, code of conduct.They have their own view pts towards life.
My sister is also an Aquarius woman,THERE IS BIG CHEMISTRY WITH ME AND HER.She is 5yrs elder than me.In my home we were the only persons,who understand and agreeing with each others view Pts.We have a STRONG Relationship inside our Heart.
I REALLY WANT A AQUARIUS WOMAN IN MY LIFE.Only SHE can Understand me.
BEING WITH AN AQUARIUS WOMAN IS JUST LIKE THE COOLING EFFECT OF RAIN and AS BEAUTIFUL AS RAIN DROPS.
AQUARIUS WOMAN = A MUTUALLY UNDERSTANDABLE PERSON A MAN CAN LOVE HER WITH HIS HEART BECAUSE SHE IS SO SINCERE. A MAN’s HEART IS SAFE IN HER HAND.
This is a site which is open to all, thats y I m limiting my words.
Jerry
I’m glad I finally get to hear how one of you guys think 
You deserve someone who understands you. The problem that causes the misunderstanding is the lack of communication. I know an Aqua Aqua couple, they used to have a hard time understanding eachother. He thought she wanted to rule the home, she thought he wanted to hide all the time, now they talk…..It looks a lot happier at their house now. A libra doesn’t understand another Libra either, sometimes another sign can see better 
that was sweet
LibraLady
FOR ME ONLY AQUARIUS WOMAN IS GOOD, THE OTHER WOMEN FAILED TO UNDERSTAND ME or I FAILED.
“You deserve someone who understands you”
I REALLY THANKFUL TO YOU 4 saying the above words
Jerry, I wish you all the best with your Aquarian Woman, I have a lot of Aquarian friends and they are really great people
Can you help me understand something though about my Aqua BF, why is he so sweet when he is around ? I mean his antions by disapearing look like he doesnt care but when he does finally contact me, hes so sweet when he talks to me, he says he loves me, do you think my instincts to beleive him are right or am I just wanting him too much? I love the man so much I’d rather se him with other women then hurt, does that make sense?
libra lady
“he says he loves me”
Then You can believe him. Y he is disappearing because sometimes he needs loneliness without talking to anyone,he want to live in his world for sometimes, he will come out from their and back to you.
I’d rather se him with other women then hurt,
That your possessiveness is hurting you.But he is LOVING you
Thank you Jerry
Youre a good guy 
I hope Everything goes great for you ! I meant that I’d rather him not be hurt, when hes gone I worry about him……
Libralady
I am thanking for your good words about me.
Thank you Libra lady
Thanks to you jerry, I began to focuss the way my BF taught me, I know now that I’ll hear from him soon…Things look a lot clearer, he is the one
Just like he told me…..
OK, LL I see you’re already here
Yes, im back……Yep, like you guys remember me……lol
Right im very attracted to a Cancer, havent a clue why. She is the total opposite of me, not that much in common, and shes not the type of person i would normally go for, but she absolutley drives me crazy. I find myself thinking about her more and more. I also find myself laughing and overreacting at jokes that she tells that aren’t even funny, lol why am i doing this? Not to mention shes actually quite crazy herself. I just feel abit more alive when with her, she also challenges me mentilly, she reads me like a book, which i find a great feat, as im very unpredictable, not even my own mother can understand nor read me.
I don’t know what she feels, but i get the vibe she feels the same way, but then again most guys get the vibe, and normally always wrong, and im afraid im one of those guys, so………Advice from the best is what im looking for. Would it work? Being that she is my total opposite? Never been in a predicament like this before, i normally always play it safe.
Hope thats enough info, if not i can give more, but not at the moment, work work work………
Adam
silly, you said it yourself, you like her because shes crazy and shes mentally stimulating… uh DUH! what else do we aquas really like besides that! Someone out there and someone that tickles our brain.
Who cares how she feels about you. You’er an aqua, you can set your focus on her and spin her head so fast she doesnt know what she feels!
just go with it bro! GO WITH IT!
oh and i DID remember you.
GemAquaLeo
I am getting messages and calls from that girl,but I didnt replied,If it is gemini girl then I am okay, I dont know what to do?
Hi Jerry
Im with another Aqua guy now, which really makes me stop and wonder how this keeps happening,LOL
Youre an Aquarius man so Ive just got to ask you, if I tell him that I dont want strings attached and that I value our friendship more then a relationship, why would that make him angry? You would probably be happy right if a girl doesnt cling, so why is he so clingy and doesnt want to hear anything that isnt romantic? What would make an Aquarius man clingy? He is very persistant and when I tell him Im busy, Im sorry but I have to do things, he looks sad….I honestly dont know how to keep him happy, Im trying to be the worlds least clingy woman, I dont want to lose him, so I give him his complete space but he acts like Im hurting him….. How much space is too much Jerry?
Oh and he tells me Im cold….. Its so frustrating…..
they have the same tendancies but are all different thank gawd. Im trying to be very careful with my new aqua guy not to assume too much. Im trying not to make him pay for the way Ive been burnt by aquas (or men for that matter). One of my best male friends is an aqua and he can be a real unresponsive basterd. Just because he acts that way I shouldnt treat my aqua intrest like he is uncaring just because they share the same sun moon combo.
it doesnt sound like you like being detached, give him a chance, he might be what you are looking for. or if you are not feeling right about how things are, that could be your answer too.
see Libra lady all the Aquarius men are not the same , they are different, if you look all the signs you can see that difference,
If I talking about me I am not a clingy man, Yeah that’s true I am happy if the girl doesn’t cling,If both of them in the same college or in the same office then okay, but being in different work place and be clingy is a difficult process, coz both she/he dont know how much busy they really are, So when you get free time you can send mails , or calling him ……etc.
For me my best friend will be my lover,when she become my wife she will be my best best best friend. Being lover and best friend we cant go anywhere to find out a friend. So both the person can talk what happened in both’s office, share jokes happened in both’s office….etc see all these things are good fertilizers to grow up the love relationship in a good healthy way.
Oh and he tells me Im cold….. Its so frustrating….., Sorry Libra Lady I cant give its explanation, U have to ask him directly about this, Y he is saying like this okay.
If you need clarification about above written ask me okay
jerrymouse
Can I get advice from an aquarius please?
There’s a guy i’ve known for a while and we’ve only been strictly friends *sigh* but damnit I want more!! He’s already said before that i’m good looking and he likes my company etc. but recently he moved 1 hours drive away from me cos of his job, no problemo as we both drive.
so all I have is facebook and he said he doesn’t think its a good idea if we meet up, didn’t say why. What can I say to him that makes me sound alluring, attractive and all that…
what would an aquarius WANT to hear? I’m not asking for a r’ship, I mean if one happened then great but what i need is something from him at the least, whether it be a date or anything. thanks xx
miss adams
You have to talk to him, dont push him to do anything,give his freedom, as a friend you know how he is, just get a bail from him and say it in your general talking with him, about your feelings, first you try to know what is the place of you in his heart, then just say to him about yours.Or you just say to him about your feelings
jerrymouse and maranovha
The best part about our relationship is when he says he will call he does, and when I get swamped with things at home or at work he is very understanding and offers me ideas that will make things smoother. This guy is turning into one of the best friends I’ve ever had. I have never been treated with so much consideration and thoughtfullness, I am so glad that I met this man. When we disagree on any subject he listens to my point of view and I listen to his and we both learn something, I have never felt this close with a guy before, sometimes it feels as if we’ve known eachother longer. He makes me so comfortable that we can talk about anything and some of these conversations can last hours. I have never enjoyed anyones company more, I would be happy even if we were just friends but there is more going on between us, I think I’ve found my best friend 
I’ve never felt so happy and relaxed at the same time. There is nothing that we are too embarrassed to tell eachother, thats the most intersting thing, all of our flaws and short comings are out in the open and we seem to just fit together, I’ve never felt so free and at ease with a guy before and I smile a lot more too. I would never scare him with the “L” word, its too soon, but I’m beginning to feel it grow….He wants me to meet his parents now, which should make me nervous but I’m not. I guess when things are right they’re right….I regret my earlier opinion of Aquarius men, I’ve found an evolved man
Thank you, I started giving him more attention and he told me that he would like us to be exclusive and that I make him feel special, right now he is being more affectionate then any guy I’ve ever gone out with, he is so considerate and has started including himself in familly things that I was afraid to invite him to, he invites himself
So since Aquas are notoriously “detached” what does it mean when they act the opposite, like almost scarily attached and wanting to move super fast?
When I say super fast I am talking about looking for apartments together.
@Krystalie – no, not at all. Aquarians are very forthright. Its just their behavior can be contradictory at times – one day being up your ass, the next you cant get a hold of him. But we are never subverted. That is more how a scorpio would be (lo, too many scorpio posts). If he’s moving fast its because 1.) we are to an extent quite impetuous but not unthoughtful of what we’re doing and 2.) he’s already figured out all the aspects of making such a decision and dcided it was for the best and so he goes after it with fervor. Aquarians on the whole don’t doubt themselves because we know even if we make a mistake we can parlay it into something worthwhile. And also again 3.) aquas have no real concept of time. Slow, fast, medium, we don’t really notice or adhere to the linear concept of time. We instinctevly feel time as it really is, just one ever flowing moment with no beginning and no end. Thin Einstein’s theory of relativity, which he himself displayed very aquarian traits even though he was a pisces (cancer asc/sag moon). Which is ashame because he was so ridiculed in his time and it must have bothered him so with all that water, where if he was an aqua, he would have prolly kicked a few heads just to get people to take him seriously and not cared what anyone had to say about his outlandish ideas.
If your man wants to move in, you should trust it. He’s considered it as far as he needs to. What you have to decide is if YOU can deal with it. But he’s already done his homework so don’t worry about him.
Thanks, countess.
I am a bit scared because it has only been a few weeks. I am not completely comfortable with the idea. I mean I really really like him, but I’m just wondering what’s the rush. He is being super sweet and saying all the right stuff. I am just scared that I will be stuck and he will start showing his true self once we sign a lease together.
Krystalle
I’ve met mine just 3 weeks ago and he wants to move super fast. I told him I’d like to go a bit slower and that I adore all of the attention he is giving me, so far we havent gone slower LOL but we sure say we are…..It seems to be okay for both of us, I let him take the lead, he feels that he is in control, which is really cute because I am watching his every move, but he seems to be happy like that and he is being more and more curteous and chivilris towards me and female members of my family too, he really is worth the insanity, he gives far more then he is asking from me, and I just show him how much I apreciate him, we are getting very close…he is a terrific guy
You know from what I see and hear around friends, its as if he loves me, he is very serious anyways and I think I’m just going to enjoy this relationship and stop analzying….I think we are good at making eachother smile and that’s priceless.
You guy obviously has serious intentions with you, he must like you a lot. Let him think he is in the drivers seat and he will feel stronger towards you…It took me a few mistakes with other Aqua guys before to learn, but Ive learned, they are adorable when their happy
@krystalle – aquas are very devil may care. we dont take life too seriously. which is why we are so impetuous. and we know we can make a bad situation turn around so we have no fear of jumping in head first. its more fun that way. feel free to teasingly ask him to slow down a bit, let him know you’re into it just not so bold as he is. this will flatter his ego and by you time without him feeling rejected. Awuas are the people you hear of getting married after only knowing each other for a day and yet doing their all to make it work. We know they are no perfect relationships, no perfect people but our humanitarian natures think to love is worth doing, to take risks, to just have fun is what life is really about. i would have married and moved in with my man after the third date. not because im needy. not because i want commitment. just because i was having so much fun, to do something crazy would have been even more so fun. And yet i would have been responsible to my actions. i would have made it work no matter what.
Thats the thing, aquas dont get crazy over someone very easily. But when we do, we take it and run with it, if situations allow. So if you have that “it” factor, thats all we need to know, we’ll deal with the rest. You could have twenty million other personality traits that we dont particulalrly like but as long as you have that one thing, it trumps all and we know its rare and so we sometimes move very fast to secure it. sometimes we WANT to move and don’t because it scares off people and sometimes we can’t help let it bleed through its so overcoming.
whatver you do, make sure your friendly and positive and not too serious about your decision. As long as we know you’re having a good time and you like being around us, we’ll keep doing what we’re doing. The moment you limit us we get frustrated. Its like “ok, you dont have to love me right now but can you just not rule it out!!!!” So let him know you’re not ruling anything out. He’ll be totally fine with that.
Geez Ive been following this site for a few days now and freakin love it but have been hesitant to leave my 2 cents since it seems yall done covered all the basis, at least in terms of the Aquarius man. But here goes nothin… I am (of course) a libra fem. who was getting to know this Aqua male for the past mth. in a half, the beginning was very cliche in terms of what one would expect while dating an Aquarius, there was super interesting conversation, enfatuation, much lust and desire on both ends. But within 2 weeks came the disappearing act, but soon enough we were back at it though Id oftentimes find inconsistencies in some of the things hed tell me pertaining to his personal life, which he paid special attention to keep from me.
But then I thought to myself and found just how necessary such a lie was at least in his eyes, because even when you look at that moment he and I were in, it wouldnt have been exceptable had I known his real age, and neither would the way that wed met ( in a club frequented by a much younger crowd ), or even his elusiveness and detachment mainly because youd just expect something more from a man who was close to being 40. So all in all I refuse to be bitter or to warn other women to stay away from this man, but hope that my story serves as a caution. And I genuinely appreciate all the people on here that are giving there testiments its almost like being able to interview the Aqua mans past relationships, which has been more than helpful in terms of me knowing what to do and where to go from here, and more importantly has played a key factor in me not taking any of it so personally or internalizing it.
It was this puzzling man that had me to get into astrology to begin with so in that sense my whole experience has made me wiser. I do agree that the best way to get at an Aquarious is by using reverse psychology and emotional distance but just found that I dont have the time nor the patience for game playing. So my tactic has been to remain friendly while slowly distancing myself more and more so until Im gone completely with no announcement of such, because this would only give him a means of trying to win me back. I cant say Id never date this sign again… Oops actually I can, because I wouldnt. Though I might be open for an occasional no strings attached encounter with one in the future, I just have to hang up the towel in terms of anything long term with this man.
sounds to me like that wasn't an aqua thing, that dude's just a player. Still frequenting the clubs, expressing too much maybe the devil may care attitude alot of aquas possess, and just trying to get where the getting was good. I wouldn't hold him representative to anything. A liar is a liar. And like you said, that was an unnecessary lie. most aquas would enjoy the novelty of an age difference and not feel the need to lie about it. If anything, on our more negative side, we would use it to support our sometimes self imposed inferiority. Personally for me, I feel the club scene is strictly about getting hot and bothered and wanting to have a good time. Which there is nothing wrong with, but i think it would be rare to form anything, not even a friendship, with someone met under those terms. Not to say it can't happen, my aunt met my uncle in a club and they were married for 20 years, but in general terms it supports a vibe of people not thinking about much past that night. i also find the type of guys that frequent clubs, not just go them occasionally, but hang there, are a total waste of time. But thats my holier than thou aqua perspective.
that should say *superiority not inferiority.
There was probably a time when Id quickly co-sign with you on the avoidance of anything serious in a club setting, but you never know and its sometimes in those very situations that youd least expect meet someone youd become enamored with, that you end up doing just that, they call it life and its unpredictable like that and I wouldnt have it any other way. But I do agree with your comment about him just being a liar and a player and that that aspect is not a predominant Aquarius trait. But there is a part of me that begs to differ and even go as far as to say that maybe that is exactly why they are so aloof and distant as to not become entangled in a lot of the psychological webs they weave and tend to entangle the ones they so cherish the most in…
So early on I made a note that there would be no sexual exchange without me getting to know him on deeper levels, though it seemed any attempt to do so on my part would only have him to become that much more distant. So through much mental distress and his constant elusivity & unpredictability we ended up together again this past weekend and after a nite of drinking more so on his part than mine, he got drunk so we ended up getting a room so he could rest it off before taking me home, and much to my surprise before lying out he emptied his pockets before passing out, and being as inquisitive as I was at this point, in no time flat I was snooping through his things only to find out that he had indeed been lying to me, and instead of being 27 as hed suggested when wed first met, he was really 36 years old and I just sat there in utter shock and disbelief at someone being able to tell such an unnecessary and blatent lie.