Comments on: How to make a Cancerian man propose?

By: nora

nora — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 08:54:09 +0000

oh plz tell me should i trust him?

By: nora

nora — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 08:50:10 +0000

hey!!
you guys i’ve been dating a cancer guy for only 5 weeks and i’m a gemini/cancer cusp. perhaps, i still need to know him more but he is honestly my dream guy! do you think i might be deceived in him?

By: Twinky

Twinky — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:04:29 +0000

Hello all,
So it seems the Cancer males are quite complex with their feelings and their relationships and forever childish in the way they act them out too! I am also starting to date a Cancer Male (I am a Virgo sun, gemini moon) & i have an adorable Cancer nephew & thanks to all the reading material on the Cancer Male in the internet and all of your posts, i have been able to understand and handle the emotional rollercoasters of these two, like a breeze.. According to my experience, first with my nephew who is still a child and therefore an exponential example of the Cancer male and their emotional reactions, the most important thing is not to take things personal with these guys at all… It is certainly all about them, but i find it to be quite beyond their control!!! So the first thing that i learned is to be understanding with your words and manners. The nicer the way in which you inform them of your ideas (different from theirs), or if you ask them to do something for you, the better they react.. They hate to be told what to do, but only if it comes as a command! But if you say it nicely enough, they do not categorize it as an insult and they will do it gladly and obediently too! But if you decide to say it as a command and mention it twice, they surely take it as an insult!! For me it is quite funny the way these two react so similarly in many ways.. However, it is hard to educate the Cancer child, since he takes everything to heart and personally!!! If he does something wrong and you tell him it was wrong, he becomes sulky and insulted and runs and hides in his secret spot!!! And it is sooooo true that if you just ignore them, else even better, start saying nice things about them out loud, they will surely immediatley come out of their hiding spots with a big smile and totally forgotten the past episode… So, the question is… If these Cancer males where never understood and taught correctly how to screen their feelings as children, how can they cope correctly in their emotionally confused adult lifes? I guess that is why these males are so clingy to their mothers and to anyone who truly understands them.. Since, who else if not them, will take the time and patience to love them and help them grow in the loving, understanding and placid ways they so instinctively demand??… I tell you, being around a Cancer male for me as a Virgo female, is certainly a challenge. I am learning to constantly control my instinctive critical ways and pointedly critical remarks and treating my Cancer date as i treat my nephew; with the outmost care and loving ways that i can.. And to all of this, i am still loyal to who i am, the only challenge is accepting that these relationships are helping me transform myself into a nicer, softer, more tolerating person and, who doesn’t really want that? Me, i am all in…

By: aymee721

aymee721 — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 22:54:47 +0000

jolie thank you…you just helped me understand it wasnt all me after a 7 yr on and off relationship…he has hurt me so badly…..everything u said is sooo true…and being a pisces….made it even harder, due to my sensitivity…..Pisces think soo much more about their partner…thank u again…..I couldnt understand what happened…he ofcourse NEVER told me it was failing….just drifted…..but kept seeing me I guess as a f— buddy…..and whenever he needed his ego stroaked…..I have never had such emotional pain….

By: airesgirl

airesgirl — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 21:36:39 +0000

Cancer men! Oh my. One chased after me and was “truly in love with me ” so I let down my guard and fell in love. Then I can feel some distance and find out he is cheating even though we are together 4 or 5 nights a week. So I stop sleeping with him and we are “friends” Then he’s in love with me again. Ok- so I fall for it again. Then he cheats again and that is it. I cut it off for good. Then he starts dropping by and I can tell he is trying to decide between me and somebody else. He tells me he’s been dating a lot. Whoop de dooo! I don;t give an inch. Then one day I’m having a really hard time and I call him just as a friend and tell him I’m having a grad time and can we just meet for a drink. The hard time had nothing to do with him or another man. He says he’s in a relationship. Ok This is after he just sent me card telling me he was moving and his new address- no mention of girl friend. So moving day comes and suddenly I am getting a ton of email, wanting to stay in touch with me. His soul loves my soul , etc. We have an email fight and I tell him we should have had this fight a long time ago and now he’s living with someone and he made his bed and he can lie in it. Goodbye. Then a christmas card with xxx’s Then another note saying he was moving to a house 2 blocks form my office. No mention of girlfriend. By the way, he is still not divorced form his ex and that battle has been going on for 4 years. So he BUYS this house with girlfriend next to my office and starts to write me notes again. I told him I was letting the office go. NOW a year after he’s been in the house with girlfriend, I see him at a meeting. I ignore him , but he finds excuse to say hi an dI can see he’s still smitten and frankly all my old feeling came back too. Then everybody kept telling me to call him because life was too short and I never felt jealous of the girlfriend ever. Always felt he loved me but I was too rejecting. So I call at a time I think he is at a meeting and I can hang up, but he answers…Blah Blah.. I ask some business questions and write him off again. Then he’s emailing trying to get me to meet him to take the train into a meeting. I get on an earlier train on purpose and I know he is freaking out that I stood him up. I let him suffer a but and then call and say I took wrong train but will see him at meeting. He comes in late and sits next to me in front of all the bigwigs. Formal goodbye, but electricals like made as usual. I go home and am sitting on my couch and my heart just opens and I know I love him but also that it is okay if we are never together. Then I tell god that he has to tell me how he feels. 5 minutes layer I get an email saying he missed me on the train and had been looking forward to it and “liked me very much.” I decided to be honest and tell him I liked him too.
So now he emails every day. I asked him point blank about his relationship. He says it is good and he’s still not divorced. I had a broken heart for two days then got over it. Other men smile at me and I don’t need the complications: Not divorced, bought house with other woman who he will probably break up with if the divorce gets final and now he’s saying he would really like to live near where I recently moved to. I feel like he’s setting things up so he can have me in place when divorce happens and he breaks up with girlfriend. I pray every day to find a new love- like a Sag or leo. And yet there is real love here– but that’s not enough– there has to be trust. So I’m now an email cheater with these notes to each other. I’ve never been a cheater of any kind but I’m not feeling guilty about it. His life is so crazy, I’m just going enjoy his notes with my coffee and find somebody else to spend my life with.

By: amber

amber — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:47:09 +0000

I’ve been with a cancer for about 6 months. It’s been good on and off. Mostly good though. Im a Libra….. but he lied about his age when we first got together. He turned out to be 18. which is really young for me even though im only 23. But i still havent figured out what I really feel about this relationship. thats why im trying to read other people perspective on cancer men. But I do know i really love him.

By: wtf

wtf — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 02:10:14 +0000

All i can say is wow! Want hear my story, I am a cancer woman married to a cancer man but I have a very close male friend that is also a cancer. He is married as well. My relationship with my husband is ok. He is very sweet , loving caring loyal and would do anything for me. The problem is that I don’t think I was ever in love with him. I was married young and he is 9 years older than me. I just never knew what love was.He was my first boyfriend. So now we have been together fourteen years. Its a very comfortable relationship but there are no sparks between us. Kindof boring and he is extremely possesive of me and jealous when Iam around other men. Three years ago I met another cancer man. We have been becoming closer and closer all the time even though we are both married. We are extremely attracted to eachother and had one episode where we finally couldn’t take it any more and had to be with eachother. We didn’t have sex but just messed around. The problem is we both think it is very wrong and don’t want to hurt our spouses. All though I believe we are both unhappy obviously in our marriages. I feel he is a male version of me but he def is confusing. One minute he seems like he wants me so much and the next he is distant. I don’t know where this is all going because we both have children so it makes it hard. I just wish I knew if he loved me or not. He has never made that clear…i think he is afraid. What does one do in this situation? I am not proud of my relationship with him but we havent had an episode since, we are trying to behave ourselves although we talk just about everyday. I really want to be with him. I think I will eventually leave my husband but I feel extremely guilty bc we have children and our home life is not terrible. He really is a good guy. I don’t know what is wrong with me but I can’t help my feelings. Any advice?

By: PurpleChild89

PurpleChild89 — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 23:24:25 +0000

Well I have been with my Cancer man since Aug 09 and it has been extremely hard. He was very attentive and sweet to me and would always listen to me talk about whatever. He took an interest in me and then one night he decided to take our friendship to the next level. Once we began our sexual relationship he became more nurturing towards me. In the beginning I just wanted to keep it light and fun (I’m a Libra after all) but he wanted to stay with me and cuddle until I fell alseep, or come see me the next morning and stay. I thought he was becoming too clingy but the sex was good so I handled it. Well he recently went on a 6 week training program were we had to corraspond via text and calls only, I got to know him and eventually started to develope feelings that could be called love. Well things were going great until he confirmed my suspicion that he was married. Married! He flat out told me that he was married and that he wanted to love me and that I was his mistress…I was like what?! I hate causing conflict but everyone (including myself) tells me to break it off. He is making it hard by calling and texting and getting all territorial with me. I still have strong feelings for him but now I’m lost. I don’t think he’ll ever leave his wife (not that I would want him if he did) since he also told me that I’m his second mistress hes had. What is wrong with Cancer men? They are sooo sweet and soo secretive, if he had just been up front in the beginning I would have respected him more. True we wouldn’t have gone anywhere but still! I feel played! He got me to Love him then he tells me he’s married!!!

By: rinkee

rinkee — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:02:13 +0000

does a cancerian guy ever come out and say he likes u or does he wait for u to make the first move???

By: rinkee

rinkee — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:00:37 +0000

hi…
i want to ask u people for some honest suggestions and help… tht would be much appreciated.
i have been liking this cancerian guy for almost 8 months now..we are in the same profession so basically we are around each other for good 8 – 10 hours everyday. i have been dropping hints to him recently tht i am interested in him… but im not getting any response from his side? i used to think he does like me but now tht he is not responding in the same manner as me.. i am getting confused wht he is really thinking? is it wise to confront him and tell him one day tht i do like u and ask him what he thinks about me? i dont want to scare him away from me by telling him how i feel since we are just friends rite now.
please advise me wht to do.
thank u!