How a Libra man proposes
November 14, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
The Libra man is ruled by relationship-oriented Venus. Libra is the sign of grace, refinement and aesthetic beauty. I imagine a Libra man would propose marriage in one of those scenarios that are portrayed in the movies — as an air sign, Libra is big on the idea of romance and love: a fine restaurant, the right wine, a sparkling diamond. Venus likes things pretty, and she also likes to indulge. But unlike earthy Taurus — the other sign ruled by Venus — Libra doesn’t want to get his hands dirty. Rugged Taurus might proposed on a cliff after a hike in the mountains, right at sunset. Libra is afraid the trek will scuff his shoes.
Are you married to a Libra man? If so, share in the comments section how he proposed to you.
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Being a Libra my husband had a hard time deciding if this was the right time… indecision can plague librians and yes, it has. We’ve been married since 1991 and he still let’s me make the decisions. And so it goes, maybe you have to make the first move, with taste of course.
My fiance is a libra, and oh boy does this description ever fit.
We went down to the Florida Keys, where he had made a reservation at Altitudes Resturant, on a separated little key called Sunset Key. Aparently this resturant is number 2 in the whole state.
We took a boat to sunset key, then ate a fabulous dinner on the beach at this breath-taking resturant. There were fire toarches in the said, with a view of the ocean all around us. After dinner, we took a walk on the white sand beach, he waited exactly untill sunset to propose. It was literally perfect.
Memie,
That description puts every other man to shame!
There were signs that our engagement was coming up. I reacted impulsively and a little childish. I told him to give me my Valenine’s day present right now or to just leave. He proposed to me in my bedroom right there. He told me later that I had ruined plans to take me out that night where he was going to propose at some restaurant.
gracas a deus anonymous ur story is WAYY more romantic than a preplanned valentines snoring bore cliche bla bla!! congrats!!!! tis so much more sweet that by being a lill demanding and going to get yours u got a spontaneous proposal rather than a script that happens mills of times the same way -in a restaurant near you-.
bis
What a coincidence my Libra husband proposed on Valentines Day too…at my favorite restaurant!
I can’t imagine Libra making the final decision to propose. Not a put down, I love this sign, but every libra friend (man or woman) I have, waited forever to propose or is still waiting. It seems like the libra would need a good prodding from their mate.
Any thoughts on this please. How do you get them to propose faster then five to seven years of waiting? LOL! And lets say the chemistry and friendship is wonderful too.
peace
To answer your post, my libra fiance said he had never found anybody that he wanted to propose to because he wasn’t TRUELY in love with them. He has been in three relationships of 5+ years.
Best thing about our gemini- libra relationship: we both love beauty, intelligence, independence (good job, happiness, values), travel. We love to go out and come home to just be with me and him. Most importantly: we both want HAPPINESS, not dark and moodiness!
Libra men (as I see them): from a gemini point of view: we agrue about very minor things really, nothing huge, he hates doing that stuff. He is very-easy going, flirtatious, little bit lazy around the home, loves to talk about himself, and seeks importance in being rich, successful- feels nothing can stop that in him.
Let me know what you think
Hey thanks for the reply. For I had seen a lot of that among friends..(the taking forever part). I am an Aquarius and am pretty new to dating this libra man. (we met four mts ago. We are getting along on every level and it is flowing wonderfully. Not one even little argument yet.
I would agree with what you said about a libra man. Mine is very much romantic, very loving and kind, easy going, flirtatious, little bit lazy around the home, loves to talk about himself. ;P lol. and indecisive to all the small stuff. But he is looking for a life partner and so am I, as we already talked of it (he brought it up) so maybe in a year from now, I’ll let you know how that goes.
Libra is often slow to propose and will do so in “the heat of the moment”, if at all. Ultimatums dont work and will push in the opposite direction with a Libra.
I married a Libra (Libra Sun, Libra Moon, Libra Rising uh huh) – he gave me 2 hours notice. Yes, 2 hours to get ready for our wedding! We had been living together for 4 years already, a child and friends for many years previous.
Libra wants the romance but you must provide it to them. Marriage is much out of convinience- social norms and family values dont sway them although how they look to their family is important (much like a Capricorn when choosing to settle down). I dated another Libra after marriage to one didnt work. 2nd Libra proposed on a whim (and talk of prenup- Libra men like prenups) but then rethought it and bounced back and forth- they ARE NOT worth the headache.
Once Libra has given their heart to someone they truly cannot give it to anyone else. Divorced, they will rush into another marriage, Marriage for them is to not feel alone and a matter of material gain- they marry up, if they can.
I agree with you completely Virgo 78. Not worth the headache and I’ve dated two Libra’s. I can be friends but the first one took three years to realize he was in love and to stop being indecisive. This other one still can’t decide to make me a priority over friends.
The best relationship I ever had was with another Virgo. They say what they mean and are very real and grounded. Love that!.
I am a Leo (female 22) and I have been officially dating a libra (man 32 ) for almost 2 months we but we met 5 months ago. He told me that he loved me within the first month of dating and the feeling was mutual . We have a very natural relationship nothing feels forced. We basically live together and we talk about marriage and kids all the time.
I have a friend thats a Libra (28) and he is planning a BIG romantic engagement to his girlfriend of almost a year! They are so in love
I have notice that my boyfriend takes his time to think tigs through and can have trouble making decisions but never when it comes to us and our love. It seems like either Libras are SURE or not sure at all
Seven months into a relationship isn’t that long. Give him at least a year’s grace before you start pushing the marriage issue. No guy wants to be pressured into “the little talk” and you want to be sure and hang onto a good thing. You two sound like a good thing.
Hey common sense, I ‘never’ said I pushed any marriage issue. Never even mentioned any such thing.. but (i said to him upfront I’m looking for someone that wants to try to commit to at least one year, no flings…) Just wondering why Libra’s, over any other astrological sign take so long to decide ‘anything’. It seams like they want a sure sure thing!! and will only push forward when or if they are dumped or a good prodding. Very unlike Cancer or Taurus who will prod you.
My past libra boyfriend did not profess undying love till I ended it after 2 1/2 years. He even followed me across the country 6 months later but I made it very clear before hand I was done and would not wait any longer to be a priority.
Look I did not post this in the right spot because, this was not about marriage but about being an important priority. Thats all I can really ask of anyone. Still think they can’t make up there minds ever. hey anonymous leo.. please keep me updated.
Prove me wrong. ha.
Libras are NEVER sure. Trust me, I know.
I’ve been dating a Libra for 5 months now and feel that I’ve found my soulmate. When he first saw me, he told himself that he had to talk to me. I had walked by him and accidentally brushed his back with my arm (he told me). I sat down at a video poker machine and this is where he struck up conversation. He was very sweet, funny, nice to talk to. By the end of the evening, he reached for my hand and held it as we talked. I had just ended a relationship with a Virgo and was ready for someone that displayed more affection, sincereity, sensitivity. We are so happy together. I crave him when we’re not together. More later…
I think we all idealize the love and tend to go off in wisps of fantasy and future that find all the good in our partners…and most likely try to find the opposite in this in order to keep things balances. So things are certainly never sure..mostly in the the middle, where we want them to stay.
I have dated a Libra man for 7 years and my father is also a Libra so I am use to them. Libra have a little trouble when it comes to commitment. They will think it over as long as they can but when they chose there mind is made. I am Sagittarius woman my self and I can say I love Libra’s. They make the best of friends very loyal and trust worthy as well as fair. My Libra like to talk about him self too but he is a wonderful listener and very supportive! This sign is very caring. My Libra can say the most romantic things and we have discussed marriage and kids quite often. The way he became so devoted to me is when he didn’t make me a top priority I stopped making him one. After a wile he realized he loved the attention of not being the most important thing to me and I pointed out that he didn’t make me feel I was important to him. Now he answers the phone every time I call and he tells me how much he care and always tells me he loves me. Once this sign realizes how they feel they are committed and devoted .
I Have been dating a libra for a couple months. When we met two months ago it was instant heaven. He and his wife had just split a month before we talked. Now he is bringing up marriage and kids. He is very romantic and appreciates i am the same way. Although our signs are not supposed to be compatable, we make it work. I am a cancer, and i am very affectionate and romantic. If i get a lil moody he always makes me smile, and hes the only one that has ever been able to get me outta a bad mood, and it usually leads to a steamy make out session or more. I love my libra! he does have a hard time making up his mind though weather its dinner or a new shirt. so i give him time, once io picked it out and he thought about it all day if it was the right choice. now i tell him to get both LOL it solves so much!
I am engaged with a Libra man, he proposed to me last 3 nights ago. STOP! Don’t congratulate me! hahaha! The next day after, I found him totally disturbed about the whole thing. I feel so sad yet laughing my ass off at the same time ’cause it’s soo funny yet so pityful to see him like this. I told him he can take the engagement back.. he said NO. Yet he is still thinking if he is doing the right thing. I’m an aries and has a very strong connection of my ascendant sign which is Libra. Untill now he is still indecisive, yet he don’t want to lose me. So I am just letting him think… he’ll make it somehow.
Ive been dating a Libra man Oct 17 and I am a Libra woman Oct 16th. I knew I loved this man at first sight. We have been together for a year now and have had only one bad fight. I broke up with him for like a week, for taking me for granted and not treating me like how I wanted so I left. It took that for him to realize that I was a great woman for him. We have been wonderful ever since. He just recently asked me when did I want to get married
I am a Libra woman Oct. 16th and my boyfriend is Oct 17th. He is one fine man whoooo hooooo!!! Our relationship is great, we are like best friends. We are both very similar with birthdays a day apart so I know what makes him tick and so does he. With that in mind we share a very respectful relationship. I have to admit, I do spoil him, but he spoils me too, and Libras love to be spoiled. lol When I first laid eyes on him I felt something real special, and I hadnt even met him yet. Its been a year and he is talking about marrying me! So two libras can work if they are both ready for the same things in life. I also read somewhere that out of all the Libra matches that two Libras have the lowest divorce rate.
@Anon that said don’t thank me…WELCOME TO MY WORLD! Sheesh! Glad I’m not the only one! I had no idea how FICKLE this sign was till I dated one. I had one other Libra ex but he was never this indecisive.
Us women are taught never to be presumptious(sp?) and to never pressure a guy into marriage. Well, mine talks about it all the time like we’re gonna do it. We’ve only been dating for three months but being that ours is a temporary long distance love, we spend HOURS on the phone or texting through out the day. I always talk about my future husband in third person, like it could be anyone, not just him. But he talks about us in his distant future all the time. Kids, marriage, house, the whole caboodle. I try not to let it affect me because given our history, he could change his mind on a whim and I don’t want to get comfortable with such thoughts, yet I don’t want to discourage him to think I don’t feel the same way. I mean, we’ve discussed our future together pretty thoroughly, but in the back of my mind, my Virgo influences are saying, careful, careful, careful!!!
He said he woke up one day and had an epiphany(sp?)….is that believable for a guy who just two months ago tried to push me away because he’s commitment phobe?
These are all too funny and appropriate comments. My libra boyfriend always “jokes” that I am being impatient when I talked about getting married or even moving in together. He refuses to even talk about it. Now after 8 years and being through any and every obstacle that a relationship can go through I am starting to hurt greatly because I cant even talk about my future with the man I have spent so many years with. Its sad. What can I do to make him realize that this waiting and wanting game is not the life I want. I am not about ultimatums. We delt with a long distance relationship for almost 4 years while I was in school and I moved back to a town that I refused to come back to with hopes that we would advance in our relationship. Im just very sad and feel stuck in an uncomfortable place.
I tihnk the aspects of why a libra sucks at deciding is becuase they want perfection. I am a libra so I know this all to well, they want it in themselves, their partners and they want people to see them as perfect as well. You could attribute this to egotism but its not, its more of a strive for the best and to be the best. The problem where this plays out in relationships is a libra does not know when they have found “the best” partner. If a libra feels they have found the best then they will stop searching and are one hundred percent committed, these over high expectations are what leads to the frustrations. I personally realized over some time that “the best” doesn’t really exist, everyone has their flaws and you if you make the relationship less about you you find yourslef happier. Libras love to help and support their partnets and can somtimes be self absorbed in the fact of tihnking the relationship is all about them for the most part even though we are giving people. My point is that libras are indescisive but once they sort themselves out and pick a partner who is compatible and wants what they want and is loving then that is the best life has to offer.I think we libras spend to much time finding the ebst rather then letting spontanaity happen and enjoying the imperfections, the good and the bad. If you are dating a libra who cant make up their mind i’m afriad that its up to the lbira to fix their own situation and realise the most important epiphany to life.
I recently dated a libra for 10 months, and his indecisiveness drove me crazy,
one day when he was at work, I left.
I got on a plane back home feeling miserable. I called him to let him know I still have feelings and cannot be friends until he decides what he wants.
He said he would call me later and never did, he is still undecided, libra love the chase and once they got the bait , they become phobic.
I m not making excuses for him anymore.I love him, but have to let go, and move on,…. I m heartbroken, but I realize if you love and respect yourself, how can you be friends after a relationship, he withdrew emotionally because he is scared of commitment, well it is his loss.I know he will call me in the furture when he decides, but a man who is unsure isn t worth all the agony.
I am a libra who has dated several libras who could not make up their minds. I am now engaged to a libra. I have a hard time making decisions but my libra man does not. He proposed six weeks after our first date a year and a half ago. We comment constantly how the fact that we are both libras is a huge asset because we know what the other needs and genuinely want to give it because we understand why it is needed. I also have to say that for once I had no trouble making up my mind when I answered yes immediately.
Following up… If you are lucky enough to land a libra man do what you can to stick with him. They make the best mates. I am marrying my libra man this summer.
I have been with my Libra man for over 5 years… we grew up in the same neighbourhood and our families were good friends like us. We went to each others graduation together and only after college we hooked up as a couple. 5+ years on we recently moved in together get on like a house on fire but when the relationship is going poorly it horrible. I hate having to nit pick everything with him. its like his not listening he says sorry and nothing else?????
HE MEANS EVERYTHING TO ME but recently maybe its me thats wants more from the relationship like knowing where its going after 5+ years.
Gemini lady
Not me, We’re both Libras and he proposed as we were laying in bed, talking, which was perfect for me. I didn’t want a big show i just wanted something genuine and spontaneous (even if my ascendant’s in leo
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I’ve Been Dating a Libra male (Sept 25th )for almost 7 years now. I couldnt ask for a better compainion. I’m a Libra myself (Oct 18th) I’m always on the go and being to told to relax and slow down some by family and friends. On the other hand hes more laid back and yes a bit lazy. he was always told to get and do somoething. The two of us together balance each other out. He gets me slow down and relax a little and I get him get out and about. I wouldnt want to change him a bit. Best of luck to you all
I so very much love my Liba. He is so beautiful inside and out. A true romantic. He has never made love on the beach so I can’t wait to do that with him. Gosh, how did I get so lucky.
I felt guilty reading what you all had to say about the Libra male’s indecision, because I know that is my ‘middle name’. I’ve been with a great Libran woman for three years and I love her to death. But because I am also spiritual, I tend to want to pray to ask for guidance on things and this includes whether she is the right wife for me. And yes, it does take a while for prayers to get answered, but I am starting to think this is my indecision at play again. Right now as I type this, we are not talking.
We are having our umpteenth fight over the same issue, which is I think she is trying to say she is ready to settle down but always seem to want to avoid any discussions leading to such. The point, folks, is I don’t know what to do. I am intensely family-oriented, she is a great woman, she has stuck her head out for me, we both have identical careers and educational attainments, I’d kill for her, but …..
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I felt guilty reading what you all had to say about the Libra male’s indecision, because INDECISION may be my ‘middle name’ after all. I’ve been with a great Libran woman for three years and I love her to death. But because I am also spiritual, I tend to want to pray to ask for guidance on things and that includes whether she will make a good wife for me. Yes, it does take a while for prayers to get answered. But I am starting to think this is my indecision at play again. Right now as I type this, we are not talking.
We are having our umpteenth SILENT fight over the same SILENT issue, which is I think she is trying to say she is ready to settle down but I always seem to want to avoid any discussions about that. The point, folks, is I am waiting on answers from ‘above’. I am intensely family-oriented, my parents have been together 30+ years, she is a great woman, pretty, loyal, smart, has a Ph.D., earns well, has stuck her head out for me, we both have identical careers, longterm life plans, and complimentary personality traits, and trust me I’d kill for her, but …..
…. I JUST DON’T KNOW!!!
I too feel guilty… I am a Libra male (Sept 30) had been dating a Scorpio for just under two years. It ended because I never talked about the future, or my plans, or whether I saw us getting married. It wasn?t so much indecision that caused the problems it was more I didn?t know how to tell her how I felt. I think I was afraid of the potential for rejection… which was so stupid because that was just in my head. I have never been happier then when I was with her and I would do anything to have her back in my life. From what I read though it probably won?t happen… and so far everything I have tried has had no effect.
Anyone with any advice?
I do suffer from indecision though, and it kills me. I have trouble making the simplest of choices sometimes…
Hi Ammils,
Gee thats a tough problem, a Scorpio woman is not easy to forgive unless she really loves you. even then you got to do something. Being a Libra guy, hmmmm
GET OFF YOUR BUTT ! THe only way youre going to get her back is to do something mean to yourself in front of her, not DEAT , NOT THAT…no, I mean, go and take something you know she knows you like, your possesion, and destroy it in front of her. Then go get flowers, let her beat you on the head wioth them then go get her somemore, say “I deserve that, I love you, I NEED YOU” that is the only way Libra guy, trust me, my scorpio friends only take back guys who do these gestures.
If that doesnt work, Wear something rediculous, stand at her door and tell her your ashamed of yourself…WEAR a sign! She WILL take you back then ,
Humiliating yourself proves your love when she is mad at you. ITS THE ONLY WAY
Words mean nothing to her without action. My Libra Ex was too lazy to get me back and its a lot simpler to get a Libra woman back then a Scorpio Woman. Show her shes worth it, words wont do it, shes not an air sign like us.
When my Libra ex husband proposed, if you can call it that he said “We really should think about committment.” And they say romance is dead….LOL
Indecisive Libran male with Libra g/frienf says
It sounds like the 2 of you need to talk a lot more. When I married my Libra ex, we didnt talk, we spent most of our time “playing” LOL
I told him how I wanted to have a family all those things, he wasnt really listening and I mistook it for yes, he wants to do the traditional family thing too. I stayed home to raise our son, this bothered him but he was silent, Oh god I know all about the “silence” your talking about…It will kill your relationship untill you put your expectations on the table, tell her right away what you want in the relationship ask her to be honest with you, if she is quiet, tell her you “need” to know how she feels. Once she tells you that, you’ll know if she will be the “wife” type or girlfriend type. I was married to a “friend” type, not a husband type because we married for the baby, I was pregnant, and we both just went silent, it was a very loveless marriage….
I just recently met a libra; I like him so much. We are only friends but after a few weeks of hanging out, he told me that he has a girlfriend and he’s trying to find a way out of the relationship. He says he doesn’t know how to tell her because he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. He says he likes me and wanted to tell me because he thought I should know. He’s never tried to sleep with me, he’s always been the upmost respectful, gentleman around me, BUT this makes me very nervous. I really care about him but I don’t want to be just another toy to him and I don’t want to fall for someone elses man. Since he’s not trying to sleep with me, I feel like I don’t have the right to push him to make a decision about his gf. He’s admited to me that he feels something between us and he likes me. I am a cancer and I am ready to run into my shell, but I feel such a strong chemistry with him. I just don’t want to be waiting to see if he’s going to break up with his girlfriend while life passes me by. I don’t want to put my feelings out there because I don’t want to get hurt. Any advice?
I married a Libra man for 11 years, believe me my husband is never romantic. I was even the one who did the marriage proposal because he cannot decide. It sucks but it’s true.
Hi Im a female sagittarius involved w/ a libra man.
My libra’s proposal is kinda funny actually
and im not even sure if it really counts LOL. We were lying on the couch in our place and he said, “man the whole world could be in chaos and id be at peace with you right here.” I said yeah me too. He said yeah its all bad for you now babe cause your stuck with me, Im gonna have to marry you.” I said, “oh yeah? Sounds good.” He looked at me and said, “WOULD you marry me???” I said, “yeah” than he asks “So will you give me a baby in 6mo” I said, “nah more like a year.”
Being a sagittarius though… Ill prolong this whole marriage arragement as long as he’ll let me. But I can tell his certainty and once libra’s are certain NOTHING can make them change their minds! At least thats how it seems w/ my libra and his love for me. Everything around him could be confusing or inconclusive to him, but he has balance with me and hes sure of it.
One of Libra’s life lessons is about love not to fall to quickly not to love the wrong things/qualities, or sacrifice who they are for love, and incorporating love in all aspects of life everything from nature and their surroundings to the poor/dirty even to love the blind who cant appreciate love/life like they can. LOVE once libra’s find it they grow like a weed!