Does a Pisces man ever end a relationship?
November 6, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
This query seems to imply that Pisces men are passive … so passive that they wait for their partner to end the relationship. Putting aside the fact that the Pisces man has nine other planets in his chart making however many angles to each other, it is true that Pisces is not exactly Mr. Action. He is more likely to dream about alternate realities in his relationship — or about his dream man or woman — than to be pro-active about making a change.
Part of the problem — if we may call it that — is Pisces’ ability to go with the flow, to accept his circumstances. Pisces transcends, after all. And if reality gets too difficult — if it imposes its hard edges into his soft-focused life — he may deal with conflict by drinking or daydreaming or escaping one way or another.
Pisces may also martyr himself, choosing to stay unhappy and perceive himself as the poor victim of circumstance over shaking the boat and putting an end to his unhappiness in the relationship.
But, my dear querent, why are you waiting for him to end it?
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I think MQ scared Capricorn off. LOL
Ms. Virgo-
I hope not! We shouldn’t be here to judge, only to help each other. Until you’ve walked a mile in my shoes, as the saying goes…..
I’m a Taurus and did the whole “I need a break” bit. I pressed if he saw us dating again (we had taken time apart as were more friends… oddly we saw each other more times and were still intimate. Commit issues?). Well, we went a week with me pulling back (not texting as much… he would still call everyday & I would talk to him). We went out that end of that week. It was great. Fun! Booze! Sex. lol Well, I couldn’t handle it. I asked for a break… he took me up on it. After a month of awkward phone and texts and anger (friends think he’s angry at me… he was the one that took me up on our break even though he said it was silly “I’m going to push you away to bring us closer”)… we are just now finally having somewhat normal, light conversations. Granted, I have yet to see him. Why do I want him in my life… no clue. But, I do. I get excited when I see him calling. I guess one day at a time. In his mind he has to learn to trust me all over again. The fact that he’s calling is great (he once made a comment about his ex when I said if he wanted to go use my office to talk to her.. he said “no texting is the only way he wants contact with her”). So, at least he calls me. Why do I want him in my life again??lol
Ms Queen: I am not homewrecking, the Pisces himself has confronted me and addressed that he has an attraction towards me, as do I. I just want to know what I can do to still be a supportive friend, but at the same time, figure out how to win his heart over. She’s in California, if he loved her he’d be there with her, not on the east coast. Long distance never works & if you had a guy this great why would you ever let him go!? You wouldn’t, it’s the real deal. I bury my feelings and repress myself from having any social involvement with him for this reason. I occasionally make conversation with him but that is about the extent of our friendship. I am not and will not do anything to complicate his relationship with the girl he is clearly NOT in love with, but at the same time it hurts me to see him go through such cycles of happiness and depression because he doesn’t have someone stable who cares for him & treats him like he should be treated, like I could. I’m sure you all know what I’m talking about, every woman once in her life…goes through this phase, I fall strong & hard for men, who I am not at all attracted to very often because they are such players. I see he isn’t a player and he is a genuinely nice guy. I just have no idea what to do, but I don’t want to NOT do something and be stuck in the friend zone because I will not and AM NOT settling for a friendship with him, I want a relationship and I will wait it out until he realizes that I am the one. No matter what it takes. I see it as an investment to my future & his as well. The Libra that Pisces is so fakely in love with should realize that their relationship isn’t working out for either one of them and break it off with him, she’s just clinging on to him for the joy ride. God knows what she’s doing in California…she was the one that suggested that while she was in California and he is in Jersey, that they do whatever they want with whomever they wish, but just not tell each other…and he has done things with other women whist being here…so he is enjoying himself, without her presence… so I don’t again understand how he loves her while he’s having nonsensical fun with other women here.
Cap08,
Well since the Cali girl suggested they do their own thing, then they should just completely break it off. Just be careful he doesn’t start feeling guilty and/or daydreaming about a life in Cali with er.
Suzanna-
Because that’s the Pisces hold on us!!! Frustrating and maddening as they are there is something so sexy and mysterious about them that we can’t live without them!!
Alright, I didn’t mean to judge Cap but it’s out of my understanding of Pisces which is that they can be impressionable and will cheat on their partners given the illusion of a good relationship or an escape.
Regarding my situation, I’ve decided to be as cold as the Fish, as you have all suggested. He’s completely detached from me, and is even avoiding me. He isn’t really online much and he doesn’t contact me. I’m not going to contact him, and if I do, I will pay a penalty ($5/email, $10/call, $20/date).
Ms queen: I get you, I’m sorry, that really sucks. But in the position I am being put in right now, I am just going to give up I think. Because honestly, it is not worth it all for me to chase after a guy who clearly CLEARLY cannot see what is in front of his eyes. I’ve baked for him before, I dress up elegantly, I am intelligent, sophisticated, the best of the best bread–a Capricorn. He should be able to see that too, and it sucks that he can’t but I have to move on with my life, there are other ‘fish’ ironically in the sea, and I guess if given the opportunity I’ll interact with them. He’s the one I want but as always he’s the one I can’t have…so the story goes.
Hi lady cappy,
I apologize again for being defensive! I am thinking of my experiences with my Pisces boyfriend (well, ex now I guess!). Ladies and gents of the zodiac I have concluded that I need to start putting myself first for a change and stop chasing this man who absolutely refuses to stay by my side. I like a man to commit to me not change his mind every single week. I haven’t really contacted him today, besides to forward him a neutral email, and I actually plan to move back home (about a 7 hour drive away from him) at the end of the month. Just without a word.
Good for you, you shouldn’t chase a man as I shouldn’t, he knows I’m here, as does yours. If they can’t realize what is right in front of them, screw them. They can’t figure out what they want, what they need, and who can give it to them that is their own problem. Too bad, they miss out on the good things in life, 10 years down the line, watch who the CEO and boss is and they won’t be married to that, they’ll settle for the less s*** around in the world that they of course don’t deserve but what do they get in the end anyway?…s***. That’s what.
Yeah I hear you. I’m currently going through so much stuff right now and feel so angry that he’s cut me off cold turkey. I last saw him on Tuesday but I haven’t heard from him. Despite all the love messages I’ve sent him he’s never reciprocated and has been totally cold.
I do have a moon in cancer and a venus in scorpio so maybe that’s where this next part kicked in, but I blocked him on aim and g-talk and removed him and blocked him from facebook too. I even deleted my youtube account. I am thinking of moving away too. His loss, right…? This man has cheated on me before and come close to doing it again and blamed it on me. One day he tells me he loves me and I’m his soulmate and the next just drops me cold turkey. He does not know what he wants…and I am not sure he will even care that I am leaving. I don’t think he loves me anymore..
hey ladies….
I need some help here…Ms virgo….last time I called him was on monday just to inform abt my job..so he be relaxed abt financial stuff….
then he himself calld on tuesday asking me specific details abt the job nothing else….
havent heard frm him since then…….
I have been strong at not calling him,txting him,emailing him….
Do you know what he is upto…Should I initiate anything or what…
Since Nov5 I only calld him once he called me twice…
i dont want him to get use to the freedom without me…
what do i do? he hasnt said we are back either…
LA_L:
I think it’s fine for you to call him and invite him to where you are so that you guys can talk with out interference or outside influences, ie his family. If he pressures you to “just talk about it now”, let him know that you really feel like this is what you guys need in order to reconnect and that you think it’s important that you talk face to face. It sounds like a lot is still up in the air and the real issues are not being addressed. I don’t know what he’s “up to” as you asked, but it is possible that he’s conferring with his family members and letting them have input on the situation.
I am a Capricorn Woman who was heavily pursued by a Pisces Man. Then he got uncomfortable months later and decided to say we weren't together, while not changing any of the behavior (consistent sex, him checking in with me, family events, etc…) He was uncomfortable with the title but he was genuine and loyal. We were very different. I'm grounded in logic and he moves by his emotions. He said that he was confused and I believed him. We were so different but once I understood that he was loving me the best way he knew how, I wasn't hurt at all. No one loves perfectly. But it takes a lot of understanding, patience, and open-mindedness to love a Pisces Man.
I am a Capricorn Woman who was heavily pursued by a Pisces Man. Then he got uncomfortable months later and decided to say we weren't together, while not changing any of the behavior (consistent sex, him checking in with me, family events, etc…) He was uncomfortable with the title but he was genuine and loyal. We were very different. I'm grounded in logic and he moves by his emotions. He said that he was confused and I believed him. We were so different but once I understood that he was loving me the best way he knew how, I wasn't hurt at all. No one loves perfectly. But it takes a lot of understanding, patience, and open-mindedness to love a Pisces Man.
He (A Pisces Male) may be distant sometimes but if he really loves you he will always be back. Which to me is alot better than a man who is too proud to say that he still thinks of you often. And the tension that his back and forth movements create, keeps things from getting too boring. But as a woman you have to be able to read him and know what his reality is even if he chooses not to face it because reality will bite him in the butt if he ignores it for too long and he will need someone there when he's feet hit the ground (temporarily) again.